Reassurance and advice maybe?
Me and my husband have been together for 11 years, always both wanted a family, he’s always said he’d probably prefer just 1 but was aware I wanted more and said probably have 2. I have 2 brothers, ok relationship, we get on but we don’t chat outside of when we meet up at mums. He is completely no contact with his family and he didn’t have a brilliant relationship with his sibling growing up so a lot of his issues come from that which is completely fair, but we have different experiences so that makes it hard to discuss and agree on siblings.
We have a nearly 4 year old, she’s genuinely a great kid, I had an easy pregnancy, fairly easy labour, she was a good baby, didn’t sleep loads but what toddler does and we’re out of that trench now and are coming to a point of having a bit more financial stability etc.
We’ve been chatting about another, he would like to stay at 1, he’s focus is keeping our financial stability and being able to give her the world, which I agree with, but I can’t help but think about having another, doing it all again and her having a sibling and growing up with one etc. We have an amazing village with my parents, they’re great and so helpful so I think having another would be doable. Sometimes we discuss baby names or like, if we have another this or that will happen, and he will say oh maybe at the end of the year we could try but I know he’s really only saying it because he feels bad.
I mostly do agree with him, but I just worry I’ll get 3/4 years down the line and regret not having another, I worry our only will be a bit lonely, but I’m aware if you’re not both 100% yes then it should be a no, HOW do you get past the feeling though? I feel like I know we’re not gonna have another but it still feels so sad and I just don’t want to get aggy with my husband as I do know it’s not his fault for just not wanting another.