AIO to my sister's texts ahead of a party this weekend?
My (40f) niece turns 8 this weekend and we're having a family party. I texted my sister and these were the responses I got.
For context, I have been dating this man long distance for a year. I didn't mention it to family for several reasons but primarily because they just generally don't really seem to care much about the people I date. I haven't brought many people home to meet them, and the ones I have were committed, long-term relationships (including a marriage), but my family just never really ingratiates themselves with my partners.
Her jab about 'past experiences' is, I assume, because I eloped with my ex-husband, so my family obviously found out we got married after the fact. We had been together for 2 years then, so it was not a rushed or surprising decision, imho. I have also never shown up to a family event with a partner they had not heard about and were told would be coming.
And because I know reddit will wonder why a 40 year old woman was living at home, I sold my house after my divorce and moved home for 2 years to kind of settle and see what I wanted to do next. It's very expensive where I live so it made financial sense.
AIO for being upset by what I see as an accusatory tone that borders on aggression?
EDIT - This blew the fuck up. I appreciate everyone who's weighed in, whether you dubbed me as having overreacted or not. Some comments had great insights. I did text my sister - we'll see if I get a reply.
Edit 2 - Update here.