u/arcoasis

I'm 21(f) and I'm talking with a guy(25) from another country. He's funny, smart and very loving and we haven't met irl yet.

He treats me well, at least that's how I feel so far into the relationship. We've been talking for more than 2 months now. But I have my own boundaries, I don't wanna make love. If I ever do it, it'll be after marriage (I haven't even thought about marriage and he knows it). (Sounds like I think that virginity is a big deal and sht but no I don't like the purity culture at all, my worth shouldn't depend on that and yeah it doesn't. I just happened to not be interested in that yet)

Everytime intimacy is brought up and I say no, he cries and has a hard time dealing with it for some reason. He's been in a relationship where they were physical before. I told him that it's best we breakup cause we want different things but he doesn't wanna break up either. He sometimes says he'll manage the urges himself but next thing I know, he's asking again why I don't wanna do it. I honestly don't know what to do, this is me asking for advice from different people who think differently, that's all.