I never go to parties or alike, only one birthday party for my friend.
But my girlfriend goes to parties/bars quite often, and never ever with me. She likes to not respond or take my requests for when to be heading home.
What should I do about it? It’s not something I like since I think that you should be able to crave something that you won’t do either, like the golden rule
Hey people,
I know that I will sound like an asshole for this. But bare with me.
I 18M and my 18F gf have been together for more than 2 years. But I/we have a problem, whenever she goes out at night I get very anxious, I get stomache pains, cold-sweat, headaches, shaking etc.
Whenever I express these emotions she says that I’m trying to manipulate her or say that I’m controlling whenever I ask her to be home at a rough time. She says that I’m not her mother and that I don’t own her and so on.
Obviously, I don’t. However I feel like a douchebag at the same time I feel ran over when she gets distant, says mean words etc.
My fear stems from unknown places. I believe that it’s a combination of my upbringing and also the experiences I’ve had myself and the things that has happened to her recently while on these adventures.
TLDR:
I get very anxious when my girlfriend goes out at night and I can’t live with it, she claims that I’m controlling and manipulating.
What can I do and say?
All feedback is appreciated. Thanks