u/astracleopatra

I’m 28F, and I wish someone had told me this earlier.
You’re both building yourselves right now. Don’t rush the relationship part.

Boys: become capable. Learn to cook, swim, drive, handle money, de-escalate conflict, take care of your body, sleep properly, stay hygienic. Learn to take responsibility. If you want to lead a family one day, build the wisdom and character to actually lead one.

Girls: all of the above, and much more. Build your education, career, friendships, confidence, independence and identity. Learn to take care of yourself and others. You don’t have to reject femininity to be strong.

I also think we’re entering an interesting phase where women can be completely independent and still genuinely enjoy femininity and traditional relationship dynamics. Girls on this sub were raised by millennial moms (first gen of adult women who benefitted from modern-dau feminism).

You can be ambitious and still want a family. Be strong and still want to be cared for.
And a man can be modern and still believe that providing safety, stability and leadership is part of being a good husband.

I think women can be incredible multipliers.

Give her safety, love and stability, and she may give you so much more back.
You provide and protect. She nurtures and nourishes. (Yes I know it might sound andrew Tate like)
Two good people can make each other much better.
Build yourself first and then find someone worth building a life with.

And once you do, keep choosing each other.
:)