u/awesomehawk321

I swear just even five years ago I was hearing it thrown around as an insult or something that's bad for a woman to be. I haven't heard it lately used in that way. It is a sign that we're fully reclaiming the word, and taking away the derogatory connotation that misogynists have associated with it? Or have some of you still heard it being used as an insult as of late?

A month before I gave birth I had the male doctor, I'll call Dr. C, who I was given no choice but to see my entire pregnancy gaslight me on how dilated I was. A visited Doctor who scheduled me to be induced by Dr. C said I was 3 centimeters. The nurses that following weekend also verified I was 3 centimeters when I went in because I thought I was going into labor.

Then, after Dr. C made me come in for a last minute appointment that I had only a hour to get to or there would be no induction, the female medical student said I was also 3 centimeter dilated. But when Dr. C checked, you wanna know what he said? I wasn't even 1 CM. I was in shock because the female medical student had literally just checked me, and said she could feel babys head. But then he, with only one finger that he shoved in me with no verbal warning, said that everybody else was wrong. Plus it also really hurt my cervix. When I brought up the nurses that checked me three days prior, he said that he didn't trust nurses opinions and only doctors.

I knew something was wrong. He started to get angry, and revealed to me that he didn't look at the schedule so he didn't know he was going to induce me. And he started to list all the dangers of being induced, and telling me that he would refuse to induce me for the rest of my pregnancy. If anyone else induced me he said that they were going against hospital policy. I said I needed another doctor's opinion. He got more frustrated and told me I needed to manage my expectations better.

I immediatety scheduled another appointment with a female doctor once I got to the lobby for the next day. Word had gotten around the hospital, and the female doctor verified I was 3 cm dilated! She broke my membrane, and ended up inducing me a few days later. It had even gotten back to the nurses who checked me before him, and they validated my feelings and said they knew I was 3 cm dilated.

Not only did this doctor tried to gaslight me, but he also tried to gaslight nearly four other medical providers who were also women. Always get a second opinion.