Advice pleasee
So my dad was an alcoholic / drug addict untill I was 10 I think I am now in my teen and I have these memories of things my dad did and I bring them up not even the serious things but like memories where he wasn’t being amazing but like not bad..? Anyway he got married to this woman and my god she so fucking annoying anytime I bring up anything that I remember from my childhood he says that never happed blah blah THEN she jumps in and say he would never ever do that like girl u didn’t know that man when he was in a active addiction 🙄 anyway I’ve tried to bring up serious topics with my father and usually the best place to do that as while we are like in a car ride the first time this happened was in November. I had gotten out of the hospital after two weeks of surgery complications and I have to go down to my dad‘s house which now I regret going down but he picks me up and he has my mom saved his ex in his in his phone contacts and I said, don’t you think it’s time to change that he goes well she chose that name. I say no you made her choose that name you were sick. It’s OK. This man lashes the fuck out and says you only know half to story while screaming and I have PTSD from him screaming and stuff so I am scared and also it confuses me because my dad during this time was on so many drugs and so drunk every day so like nobody even know what his side of the story is he has accused my mom of me not being his child ( I look like him and I’ve done a d a kit ) and he constantly accused her of having affairs but like literally they had to revive him four times because he was literally dying from him poisoning his body and if I bring up anything at all that he doesn’t like he just screams at me and says I don’t know half the story and blah blah blah and then his wife is just always there saying you don’t even know like your father would never do that and I’m genuinely just don’t know what to do like I need to go get talk to him about what happened in my childhood, but I literally can’t because he shuts it down immediately in his wife is there to gaslight me about how I don’t know my father and he would never act like that so any advice would be helpful