Am i overthinkingg?
Hi im 21 yo (female) and my bf is 20 (male), so for some context im indian and i went to new zealand for 6 months recently for an internship and i met my now boyfriend there, it was really nice we met online so we used to chat all the time and from the first day itself we knew there was something between us so we wanted to meet and hangout, (we used to stay in different states) so after a month he came to meet me and it went really well and from the first day itself we started dating.. everything was good and my boyfriend wasn’t really close with his family but i pushed him to give tkme to them and reconcile things, but then he started neglecting me and saying stuff like he wanted to “be a better son”.. and he knew the fact that he was neglecting me.. some instances are, he didn’t come on my birthday to see me (didn’t work the entire week and he didn’t had money) but he could’ve tried picking up shifts knowing the fact that its my birthday.. Didn’t give me anything even like a belated gift or anything but kept saying he wanted to buy me something for my birthday and his mum as well cuz we have our birthdays one day apart and he did buy gifts for his mum but not me, and then when my internship was ending he was suppose to come pick me up and i was really really sick and i called him 2 days early from the day he was suppose to come, i took two days off from my work and i told him can you come pick me up today.. he immediately said yes and then later on didn’t come cuz his mum said not to go and it was late at night and then he said he’ll come the next day and the next day he said can he come on the day he was suppose to come from the start because if he stays a night with me for one day his dad will get angry?? And then this went on for ages and he argued with me so much but he eventually came (but the whole conversation was really hurtful because he was telling me from months that he’s gonna come pick me up we’ll go to queenstown bla bla bla and nothing happened and he was even considering me just bussing all the way from dunedin to christchurch because his mum said i can just bus and he shouldnt come to pick me up), then we went to a hot pools with his family and his mum commented something about some other girls boobs and she was talking to him in arabic and i didn’t understand but i knew what she was saying and then i asked him he said yeah she was talking about those girls boobs and i got angry that this is weird and why did he look and then he stopped talking to me and didn’t even say sorry and his mum kept saying “aww you made my son sad” and i cried after because i was the one who he made sad and my boyfriend didnt say a single word to her when he was “joking” with me.. then we were in car and i was sitting in front and his mum and sister were sitting at the back and he wanted to lean his seat a bit back but his sister didnt move to the middle so he couldnt and his mum said I’ll just go in the middle and he said no no you dont go and then he told me to go sit at the back in the middle so he could lean his seat back and his mum could sit in the front and i felt really bad and i was chatting with him the other day and i asked him if your mum asks you whos more prettier she or me so what will u say he said he’ll tell her she is prettier and i was shocked and i said do u hate me and he just brushed it off and said baby you can’t ask me all this she’s my mum and i justt said okok and he never noticed that i was sad.. am i just overthinkingg or is this actually wrong? Am i ever gonna be his priority? Even tho he says i am but he seems changed..