u/babyduck53

Context: I am almost a year no contact. I decided to cut ties with my family after a big betrayal . I was in a toxic marriage that I moved internationally for. They have not been supportive , when I was trying to leave . They wanted me to leave at their pace, their timeline. Which caused me to feel pressured and unsupported. This was the straw that broke the camels back. I live in a classic “narcissistic” family . So. They pushed me to move back to my home country but I didn’t want to and they knew that but kept pressuring me. So I decided to go no contact because I realized they were too toxic for me . My mental health has improved so much and I feel like I am finally living life on my own terms.
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Now to the issue. They have been trying to talk to me sonce after 6 months of no contact, since then attempts to contact have been at least once per month. They are NOT apologizing. They have been trying the “both sides dod wrong” . I have seen zero accountability and since shortly after going no contact only tried to get to me with nonsense stories to see where they stand for me, I presume. It is very frustrating. I have started dating someone online, and they have been trying to get to me through my partner. It was embarrassing for me to explain I stopped talking to my family, because at that time wr have only been dating since 3 months and I didn’t tell them yet about all this. They are being invasive . They keep texting me with different numbers. On my steam (gaming platform) they sent a text under a game screenshot I posted there, pretending to be a random person asking about games. I knew right away ot was them.

Does anyone else deal with this ? It’s frustrating and anger inducing. They have been violating for me my whole life. I want to feel free . I have not sent them even one word sonce I went no contact. And I don’t plan to. I don’t think they miss me that much. They are very image conscious. They know I went no contact while they were “helping” me because they ran around telling everyone that they were about to save me from my toxic now ex. I got separated niw. Wr get along fine now . I had a job at the 6 month no contact mark which doesnt surprise me now that they see I am happily living life without them. Niw that I started posting my art on Facebook contact attempts increased again.

If anyone can explain me all this would be great. Or if a anyone went through this too witj persistent fsmily members after going no contact. I don’t know anyone irl who can relate so I am coming here to talk about this … thanks 🙏