u/backroadtovillainy

I’ve had a long and successful career in tech that’s left me severely burnt out. The past couple years I’ve been reflecting and rethinking how I want my future to look. I have a strong work ethic, I’m just tired of giving it all away for a shitty paycheck to some shitty company that finds me expendable.

I'm going to ramble about myself, and you bug me if I sound like your jam.

I’m a jack of all trades and master of none. I love to learn and try things.

I currently live off grid in a rural area and I love it. I want more. I love the quiet of nature and drying laundry in the sun. But I also love a hot shower and a movie night. I like being away from modern distraction but I want a cozy solar punk life (someday).

My current goals this year have to do with getting a lot of hands on experience. Learning to fell a tree, build hügelkultur beds, plant trees, wire solar, manage batteries, build basic structures, use tools, etc.

I love to garden and grow food and I would love to get most of my calories by my own hand. I’m trying to grow enough to share this fall. I have two green thumbs- I’m pretty good at plants. I have raised chickens in the past and I would like to raise my own meat and eggs long term. Birds, rabbits, and maybe the occasional group of goats or pigs. I want to learn to hunt and fish and process animals.

I am a nerd for science. I like flower and chicken genetics. I like disease epidemiology. I like learning about the intricate relationships between fungus and bacteria and roots and bugs. I’ll eat ginger for my tummy and take ibuprofen for pain. I love permaculture but I row crop corn. I work toward regenerative agriculture. I believe in taking care of the land and leaving space for nature. I love talking about these subjects and I adore listening to someone glurge about a topic they know and love deeply.

I am an artist. I like to paint and make digital art, I sew and felt and embroider, I like weird monsters and bright colors. I like fantasy sci-fi and horror. I love snuggling up with my cat, a cup of tea and enjoying a video game, show, movie, or a good book… or discussing them with someone.

I am grey and older and chunky, but I am fit and spend hours working physically most days. I don't want to sit at a desk all day ever again. My goal is to shed some weight and stay healthy and strong long term. I like to eat a lot of veggies because when you grow them they taste good and make you feel good. I can make a mean pot of vegan beans, but my bbq pork ribs will make you swoon. I’m sober 99% of the time, drugs are for holidays, but what you enjoy recreationally doesn’t bother me.

I’ve got no kids and I’m not having any… But I do like kids and I would be glad to be part of a young persons life. I am the “cool aunt” in my family. I am patient, practical, supportive, empathetic, and caring for others is my love language.

I am queer. I’m presenting as a woman because this is how I pass, but I lean non-binary and I am non-gender conforming. I’m not at all picky on what you look like or where you come from or who you used to be. I care more about your heart, your ability to be authentic and honest, your work ethic and commitment, and if our interests and skills fit together like long lost puzzle pieces. If our lifestyles and goals trend toward building a future together.

I feel like I’m laying down the infrastructure for a more rewarding life, and I don’t really want to do it alone anymore. So, bug me if you wanna chat and get to know each other. Maybe we can build something cool together.