u/ballerina80

I have been with my psychologist for 2 years now and I’ve been working through some pretty heavy things from my past. My therapist isn’t very big on chatting prior to getting into the hard stuff or “putting in the work” - for example updates on my life or just random little things. He will usually tolerate small chat for about 5 to 10 minutes before wanting to get into the hard stuff.

Is this normal? Also, I’m worried that when I get to a point of not needing therapy anymore (but feeling like I would benefit from maintenance therapy every once in a while) he won’t want to see me because I wouldn’t necessarily have a huge problem that needed fixed. Are some therapists only for the “hard stuff” and not maintenance?

Unsure if it’s appropriate or not. I’m a very huggy person and I feel when my sessions are hard I need some physical contact

What can I expect and does anyone have any tips? Advice really appreciated, thanks. I’m really anxious and unsure what to expect

I am so ashamed of my TS and I wish that I wasn’t and it makes me dislike myself so much. I go to a therapist and I don’t know how to open up about this or what that would even do/benefit. I feel like I wouldn’t even know where to start and if you don’t have it then you’ll never get it, you know?