For ThreadUp posted wallets and bags, why do they never show the inside?! I need to see how many compartments there are! At this point i've just stuck with the direct listing items because I want to see inside!
Admittedly, i've never been in a full committed relationship. I've had flings, and even those always came second to my friendships. I think in many ways, I am a little bit of a relationship anarchist who doesn't believe that romantic relationships need to be the central relationship in a person's life. But I fully understand that the majority of people are socialized to believe so and that's how society functions.
Well, in my mid-thirties, most of my friends are coupled, some coupled with a child. And I am genuinely the friend who will adopt your loved ones as my own. I love children and love being an "auntie". I've helped plan several good friends weddings. I root for my friends and each of them know I will help them move a body.
And I am really at the point of being bitter. Not because those things aren't happening in my own life but because it feels all of my friendships have dissolved into pen pal relationships, even the ones I live near.
And these are people who express love for me, update me on their lives, ask for updates on mine so it isn't the sort of thing where it's like well maybe they don't like me. Because they could stop texting me lol.
I have offered to drive to them to have lunch/coffee/ sit with you during your kiddos sports practice and it's always "let me get back to you". I really want to engage with my friends in person, like I need the hugs and the touch, the face to face without screens, ya know? And yes, I am pretty direct and have verbally said to most of these folks "I want to see more people in person this year".
And it's not just coupled friends -- I have a few single friends who are just as bad. One lives 20 minutes away and I can't get her to come out of the house. But we talk via text and voice notes everyday. She is this way with everyone who is not a hookup partner.
Another single friend, now former friend, found time to hang out with other folks (as per their social media) but whenever I asked to hang it was always put off. But then got upset when I slowed down our text and social media correspondence complaining that I pulled back. Like girl, what?
I did recently have one friend come visit and I really appreciated that but she is a very romantic- relationship centric person (she is also poly and has a lot of partners) and the while we were doing most of the activities I planned, she was staring at her phone texting one of her partners. Mentioning how it would be really nice to try similar activities with her partners. Imagine feeling like a third wheel when there's only two people in the room.
Again, I think it's bullshit to center romantic relationships because community is expansive and you need more than just one person and different relationships serve different purposes. But my goodness, I'm ready to get aggressive in my dating just to not be this lonely because I am so underwhelmed.
Anyone else feel similarly? Anyone else find a way to combat this?
... even 24 hours AFTER your procedure.
That's it. That's the post.
I've been wanting sisterlocks for ten years now, and im ready to get them installed and feel like im in a decent place to be able to maintain them (I lived in a place with no consultants for several years).
Years ago, I was able to reach out to folks and they would give me a quote based on hair length and starting price.
Recently, i've spoken to two consultants who are stressed that that is information they cover in the paid consultation (ranging from 100-175 dollars).
And it seems to me that before I drive to sit in your chair I should be able to ballpark a price even if after the consult it's +/- a few hundred dollars.
Is this normal?
I understand wanting to be compensated for your time but most business entities allow you to get a quote free of charge, even if it needs a disclaimer that might not be the final pricing. If there is a set science to the payment structure, that only takes a couple of minutes to tell me (especially if you copy and paste it).
I have about 14k in student loans.
I've been on IBC without a real payoff plan and a goal of going back for my Masters in a year or two. It sounds like any plan I choose now will be null and void if I take any further loans out. Is that correct?