u/bboru2000

I’ve been blessed with a very long relationship with a professional services firm. They are an enormous, global company with many departments. I work with the North America groups and they have a strong local office in my city. Occasionally, I will not be available for a job, and I will recommend people to them. I’ve also had several large events where I’ve taken a second shooter with me. Generally, I’ll recommend him for the solo jobs I can’t cover. I’ve included him in or referred to him tens of thousands of dollars of gigs over the past 2 years. He just texted me to say someone reached out to him for a repeat of an event I referred him last year and he said he told them he’d take it. I guess I should be thankful he let me know, but I’m kind of pissed that he didn’t tell them to reach out to me first for availability.

I don’t blame the company. Often these things get passed to a junior person and they just look up who did it previously. But I had this happen with a major university and I never worked with them again. They had turnover in marketing and the new person only had experience with the guy I had referred them to cover for me.

WWYD? Do I politely tell him that, in the future, please pass these inquiries to me before he accepts, or do I quietly find someone else to second shoot and never bring/recommend him again?