u/be-el-zebub

I see so many people talking about being upset over accidental gender reveals, but it’s just very odd to me.

Granted if you are genuinely okay with any gender and want to enjoy one of life’s few surprises, sure go for it, but I see so many people talking about gender disappointment at birth or with an accidental reveal.

Why would you not want to know as soon as possible so you have time to adjust and mentally prepare yourself? It feels a little like setting yourself up to fail, even if the gender disappointment takes you by surprise.

That’s just my opinion though, I did a Sneak Peak test and got the NIPT results as soon as humanly possible and shared it immediately because I want to know everything about my baby, and I don’t want anyone getting weird about it without fair warning to fix themselves. I know my parents were disappointed it wasn’t a boy, so I’m glad I got to have that conversation with them well ahead of time.

But genuinely, why does a gender surprise matter to you, if it does at all?

So I’ll preface this with saying I’m a nerd. In my life of playing D&D and writing stories I have never struggled to name a character. It’s always felt like a pretty organic part of the process.

Now I’m pregnant and the story has changed. This is a real person who will have to live with the name forever. I know what living with a bad name feels like, my parents kind of cursed me, so I’m hoping to find something pretty and classic with nickname options so she has a bit of freedom with it.

Names on our maybe list so far:

Alena - the top contender name

Helena

Eleanor

Names only one person likes/the other is neutral on:

Sylvia

Miranda

Edith

Liana

Names shot down for being too common in our area:

Violet

Cora

Margaret

Do you have any suggestions for us to consider? We have five months to go, I’m just weirdly stressed out about this.