I'm an Atheist. My Wife is Frum. Our Marriage is Thriving.
apikorsus.substack.comu/ben-z-wolf — 8 days ago
▲ 30 r/exjew
We Need to Stop Mourning the Temple
I wrote a post about how we need to stop mourning the temple. I am grateful to not be frum anymore and not have to pretend to want animal sacrifices to return. Would love to hear your thoughts!
https://apikorsus.substack.com/p/stop-mourning-the-destruction-of
u/ben-z-wolf — 30 days ago
Interview with Zalman Newfield, author of new OTD memoir
Zalman Newfield has a fantastic new memoir, Brooklyn Odyssey, that I recommend everyone read. I recently interviewed him for my blog, Torah V'Apikorsus.
I think people here would really enjoy the interview. We did a deeper dive on his upbringing and the process of leaving Orthodoxy. Would love to hear your thoughts!
You can check it out here: https://apikorsus.substack.com/p/finding-a-jewish-life-after-orthodoxy
u/ben-z-wolf — 1 month ago
▲ 32 r/exjew
When the son of a gadol goes OTD
Sometimes it feels like no matter what I accomplish in the world, I'll always be a disappointment to my parents because I'm not frum.
I wrote about this feeling and what happens when the son of a gadol leaves the frum path - https://apikorsus.substack.com/p/the-brilliant-disappointing-son-of
Would love to hear your thoughts!
u/ben-z-wolf — 2 months ago
▲ 35 r/exjew
Interview with Shlomo Satt, an OTD conversion therapy survivor from the Yeshivish Community
I recently interviewed Shlomo Satt, who grew up "yeshivish light" in Far Rockaway. He went through 3.5 years of conversion therapy and was ultimately cut off by his family when he came out as gay.
I wanted to share it here because I think those here might relate. He made a really interesting point about the overlap between the "gay closet" and the OTD closet:
>There is absolutely a common thread between being a closeted Queer person and a closeted non-believer. I’ve done both! ... I think faking religiosity is comparable to faking sexuality - both represent a stark inverse between personal values and personal behavior.
He talks very openly about the cost of leaving and how he built a chosen family and a much freer life on the other side.
If anyone wants to read the full conversation about his yeshiva days and his coming out process, I posted it here: https://apikorsus.substack.com/p/coming-out-gay-in-the-ultra-orthodox
u/ben-z-wolf — 2 months ago