u/berry_kool

For anyone who hasn't seen the original post: My partner S had been feeling left out, she didn't tell us this and I found out by basically becoming a detective. My other partner R had no idea about this either

Hi, it me again. So, S kinda broke up with me and R. I'm trying to think of it as a break. This happened over text, not even a call. I'm a bit upset about that, but it's fine, actually better for this situation. R isn't online right now because she's on a camping trip and won't be back till tomorrow afternoon. Anyway, I typed out what happened yesterday but it's a bit... confusing? Feel free to ask any follow up questions.

The convo kinda went like this:

S says she can't handle a relationship rn, she says shes trying, she says if we both want her to keep trying she will but it needs to go both directions, she says she loves us both, she says she feels like a 3rd wheel again(?), and that she feels like we only talk to her when the other is offline.

I reply with: I'm sorry you feel like a 3rd wheel, we didn't want her to feel to feel like this, if there's anything we can do to fix this i want to know, I fully support whatever she wants to do, as long as she's happy

Hi! So, I am in a poly relationship with 2 other people. We'll call them R and S. S is the one feeling left out. S and R have been dating for 3 years, all 3 of us have been dating for about 5 or 6 weeks. R and I met almost a month before I found out about S. I live miles away from the both of them, but we try our best with online stuff. So R and I have matching profiles on pretty much every, even matching avatars on roblox. We talk just about every day. Now, 2 days ago, R and I got new matching profile pictures on Discord, and S updated their status not even 5 minutes later and it said "oh ok then" so, I did some digging because the timing was stupidly suspicious and what do you know, I find something in a server I forgot I was in. S was talking about it with some other people in the Discord server about feeling left out, someone suggested getting a fourth but I don't want to. I'm very protective and territorial over those I care about and it would take time before I adjust. I told R and we both were like "OMG, HOW DID WE NOT NOTICE THIS SOONER??? I FEEL SO BAD" Now I don't know if I should confront them about all this or just let them talk about it when they're ready. Sorry if I'm unclear about somethings, I'd happily answer any questions in the comments!