u/blackjzck

I’m curious what people here actually think about feminism.

And I’m not talking about the endless 50/50 debates, who pays, who provides, or who stays home.

I mean feminism in the sense of women having the same basic rights and dignity as men: being seen as equal human beings, deserving of a voice, being free to have dreams, make their own choices, and live the kind of life they want the same way a man can.

Do you consider yourselves feminists? If not, where do you disagree?

My ex is active here so I wanted to explain why I broke up with him.

He thinks that after everything, I chose to end the relationship over one mistake.

But that wasn’t the case, I didn’t even see it as a mistake it’s the way he didn’t even give me any explanation for it or tell me what happened even though I asked time and time again he acted like it was nothing and he he didn’t owe me anything

He thinks that because he put effort into the relationship, I had no right to be upset when I felt neglected, unimportant, or disrespected. He saw my hurt as me being ungrateful, impossible to satisfy, or never happy with what he did.

I noticed the things he did for me. I appreciated them. I never ignored them.

But someone can love you and still make you feel alone.Someone can put in effort and still fail to meet your emotional needs.Someone can have good intentions and still make you feel undervalued.

I left because every time I tried to tell him what mattered to me, he thought I was denying everything else, he thought I was asking him to change himself he thought I was keeping score against him.I wasn't.I was trying to communicate my needs before they turned into resentment.

He thought that “peace” in the relationship was him being able to do whatever he wanted, and me never bringing up issues or getting upset about anything he did.

He didn’t seem to understand that being in a relationship means your actions don’t exist in isolation anymore, because they affect someone you care about.

To him, things felt fine when there was no conflict. But from my side, I wasn’t being heard unless I stayed quiet, and that’s why I left.