u/blueandyellow7

All of my pants have a rise that doesn’t even cover my jungle fully and I’m dead serious about that. Obviously as a butch I hate wearing feminine underwear like bikini cut or whatever but sometimes it’s my only option for my underwear to not sit 6 inches above the waistband of my pants. I won’t be buying higher rise pants, I only wear ultra low rise cause it hides my hips and I love how it looks. But please let me know if there’s anywhere yall have found to purchase anything like this, unfortunately most modern “low rise” boxers (Amazon, target, etc) are not cutting it either cause I’m wearing pants from the 2000s that are truly egregiously low. If yall know any brands (vintage or not, I’m desperate) that sell ridiculously low rise boxers please help and thank you

Hi, this is just a throwaway rant cause I’m not really sure who else to go to with this and I just wanna talk about it. No advice needed (unless you can think of anything helpful) as this isn’t a situation where anyone is at fault.

My best friend is my favorite person in the world and I love him more than anything. I love to show him off, I post him on my socials regularly, I even have a highlight for him. He’s extremely loyal and wonderful and I’m so proud to have him as my bff.

The issue is that he’s extremely insecure, in basically every way. I would never judge him for that and I know that it must be hard. He’s trans so he has a ton of body dysphoria issues, and he’s very very quiet and doesn’t like to be in social situations.
I’m the complete opposite. I’m loud, outgoing, maybe even a little cocky, I love attention, I love to be seen and I love when people look at me. The balance between us works most of the time, but sometimes it’s really hard for me to just BE.

For example, when we’re in public I can’t laugh too loud, or approach anyone, or do something dumb like jumping around or dancing or whatever because he’s afraid it will draw attention to him since he’s with me. He doesn’t mind being posted but half of the time he hates the way his pants look on him, or his smile, or he thinks he looks too feminine and he asks me to delete it. Of course I listen and comply cause I respect him a ton, but it can be a little restrictive sometimes since he nitpicks every little thing he hates about himself. I think he’s beautiful and amazing and I never notice whichever insecurity he’s noticing.

He also gets overstimulated by everything, (we’re both autistic so of course I understand that some autistic people do really struggle with this, me personally I got the kind of autism where UNDERstimulation is the upsetting thing, and I like being in stimulating situations) so a lot of the time I want to listen to a song with him or read him a blurb from something regarding our (shared) hyperfixation and he’ll tell me he can’t handle that because he has to be in a very specific headspace to consume any media that relates to our hyperfixation without freaking out. Once again, I’m not angry but it would be really nice for us to get to bond over this more.

Anyways, I’m willing to deal with stuff like this to keep him as my best friend but I guess I just wish I could be at 100% like I love to be instead of having to tiptoe around and dim myself down to 50% so he isn’t scared of me drawing attention to us. Sometimes I just feel like he’s a very timid animal and I’m a person trying to get it to come out from under the couch. To anyone who read all this thank you for listening and have a great day.