u/bluebella72

She is 5 weeks old and I can count on one hand how many hours she has spent in her cot. We have tried three.

She will however sleep in our arms, our bed, the sofa - anywhere cosy basically!

I have almost given up transferring her to a cot/bassinet as it’s stressful when she wakes up due to her startle reflex about 5 minutes later.

I wonder if it’s just better to expect no sleep and wait for her to get used to it. But I’d love to know if your baby was like this and how old they were when they grew out of the reflex and started settling in a bassinet?

Some of my friends think the reason she won’t settle is because I held her too much. But she slept in a bassinet in hospital and then since we got home she flat out refused so I had no choice but to hold her. I’m so tired.

Our baby is 5 weeks old and since coming home from hospital she has been terrible at sleeping at night in her cot. She will only sleep long stretches if she is being held.

She does get to sleep well but she has awful startle reflex which wakes her up constantly.

I am tempted to try the Snoo but is it good and is it safe ? Also my baby hates swaddles but wondering whether the movement would be a distraction.

My baby is 1 month old today. I have been doing a mix of breast milk, formula and expressed milk as I don’t have enough breast milk to feed the baby.

I have noticed that the baby will clean off the breast and get upset and annoyed for apparently no reason as I can see milk around her face and in my nipple shield. One theory I have is that as she also uses the bottle (smallest teat) she is used to faster flow.

Could this be why? I am finding feeding times quite stressful as when she gets annoyed it’s hard for her to coordinate what she is doing. If it’s a case of breast being too slow I am happy to keep pumping for now.

Any advice very much welcome!

Hi

I had a lactation consultant come over who was very helpful but there was one thing she said I wasn’t sure about.

I am trying to come off formula and increase breast milk.

When it’s been a few hours obviously my breasts feel full and baby can feed. But if she’s feeding on and off it gets to the point where the milk seems to run dry. I can hear she’s not swallowing and the sucking sounds different. I look at the nipple shield and there’s nothing in there. Plus baby is frustrated. The consultant says there IS milk. So last night I kept going to the point the baby was upset and wouldn’t settle. We gave her some formula and she settled. Then I tried to BF her every hour or so through the night and she seemed to sleep after that.

Was I right to give her the bottle at this time? Or is it true baby is still getting *something*

Sorry if this is a stupid question. I am very sleep deprived and desperate to be able to satisfy the baby with breast milk alone. However I know it will take time and happy to still give the baby formula if needs be…

She’s just over two weeks. Has started kicking off the blanket (it’s tucked in) and bringing her legs up and making noises which leads to crying.

At first she was sleeping pretty well for 2-3 hours but now from 11pm-6am it’s pretty much torture for us.

Should we try a new cot? My friend suggested a blanket under the sheet to soften it. Not sure how safe that is though?

I can deal with the late night feeding but if she won’t go down for a couple of hours each time she sleeps on me and I’m worried about myself falling asleep.

Any ideas welcome!!

I am 7 days post c section and my milk has only started to come in - but it's not enough to satisfy baby.

She will latch on and off for an hour or so (maybe 20 mins at a time) but then starts to get frustrated as she must be hungry so cries and screams and puts her hands in her mouth and can't latch anymore. By this point we give her a bottle of formula and she gets sleepy enough to put down for a few hours.

Is this normal for c section mums? It's really distressing watching the baby get so upset and frustrated. Is there anything I should or shouldn't be doing in this situation to speed up the milk?