For anyone who’s comfortable answering….was there a point when your grief felt less constant or overwhelming? I’m trying to understand how grief can shift over months and years. I’m 2 weeks out and it does feel like it will be this way forever.
This sucks so much. How do I get this to stop immediately?!
At 1:30pm I had my baby boy delivered at 16 weeks. The back of his head was missing but with his beanie on he looked perfect. He has his dad’s eyes & nose and my lips.
I miss him so much and I’m just so sad that life is so unfair. I’m so angry. I’m so mad. Why us?
We decided to choose the L&D termination option for our baby boy who has anencephaly. In preparation for this, what would you recommend I bring? I already contacted a funeral home to coordinate with the hospital. Anything else I should plan to bring?
Our baby boy was diagnosed on Wed with anencephaly at 13w4d. We did IVF the last 2 years and not a single time did I get pregnant except this time with our baby Clark. He was so wanted and our last fertilized egg. We had all the testing and everything came back fine. So it was a shock to find this out. Today I’m supposed to schedule the termination procedure but now I’m second guessing it. He can live inside me but won’t make it on the outside. If I decide to continue carrying him the delivery will be traumatic cuz his head is not round and he won’t come out, usually they are breech my OB said. She said she would support any decision I want. I guess I just don’t know what I want. Part of me wants to wait until I’m 16 weeks then ask for a labor induction abortion. Part of me wants to keep him until I feel him (but they said it’s just reflux since he doesn’t have a brain). He doesn’t feel pain and I’m the only thing keeping him alive. I guess there is no right answer but looking for advice on how to view this.
We also have a 6 year old son we were blessed with from adoption. So I’m acting as normal as I can aaround him and a mess when I’m alone.