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I don’t know if it’s possible for a 70s widowed man who lost his wife three years ago and had a very loving and caring wife and miss her so bad that I can’t even put into words. To find a widowed woman to be friends with that also, who had a husband that was very loving and caring just so we can share our feelings and each of us would know that the other one would totally understand how the other one feels in the grief and the sadness that we have. I can’t feel that I could ever get married again, but at this point in time after 3+ years of her being gone, I sure would like I think to have another person to talk to that has gone through what I’ve gone through, I don’t know how far the friendship would go, but it would be nice to have somebody to go do things with go for rides out in the country just somebody to share time with for what time we have left. I don’t know if it’s possible, but how would you even find somebody like that I’m not a very social person. My wife and I were always kind of on the loaner side. We just love being together more than anything else. We didn’t need other people we had each other and that’s all we needed and that’s all we wanted. I still feel that I’m not very social. Don’t care to be around a lot of people I just like things, quiet, peaceful just had these thoughts in my head. I found this site a few weeks ago and have posted in the past a few things, but I just thought I’d post this get any input that might be out there

I also need to add that reading other things on this site and what I have posted I’ve had a few times women try to contact me and it was nothing but a scam and I’ve posted a warning on here to let people know that that stuff goes on. At this time in our lives when we’re widowed, we can be very vulnerable to that stuff and I know it can be hard to trust with what is being said on here and to trust what response you get, but I have feel I need to try something and I don’t know. Maybe I’ll just spend the rest of my life all by myself, but I just thought I’d try something.

I’m 76 years old lost my wife three years ago and I’m dealing with something that really seems strange. These last several months I’ve been having a strong urge to go naked around the house and outside. I live out in the country no neighbors very private and I can’t figure out why. I know it seems to make me feel better. I miss her so much It hurts more than I can put into words. I’ve also having the urge to masturbate more than I ever have before. I find myself touching my self a lot what is this? I’m an old man and I don’t understand why I’m feeling these feelings. I wish I could put all my feelings down by typing it, but it’s difficult. Has anybody here experience these urges and what did you do about it.

It has been three years now for me since my wife has passed and I’m having a real hard time. This third year dealing with these emotions I don’t know if it’s widows fire or I just need to feel somebody close next to me that I can cuddle up with. I miss my wife how we would love each other and feel our skin next to each other. It felt like one when we were that way and I’m missing that real much more than now than before. From what I could find on the Internet Widows fire is usually within the first year, but I don’t know if mines late coming or if it’s just the skin the skin contact that I’m needing. I don’t know what to do or how to handle it and I wonder how other people that are widowed or dealing with it. To all of you here thank you for your input and to all try to take care the best you can for me that’s all I can do at this time.

After three years of losing my wife, I have gone through a lot of emotions. One of the emotions that I’ve been dealing with is that I can’t wait till I can be with her. I’d be just happy and fine if I died today so I could be with her. I felt that way ever since she passed, yeah I’ve thought of how to do it many times it’s still today after three years. I still think of it often and I get tired of the pain and the sadness in the crying every day off and on, but I keep on going just taking one day at a time not knowing what the next day is going to bring. I can’t put into words all my emotions like anger, the pain and sadness, but I feel writing here on this website people understand that feeling and understand it. But I tried to go through the day doing what I need to do and everywhere and everything I do I keep remembering that my wife and I did it together in every time we did. We did everything together and we loved being together more than anything in the world. I feel this website can help and I thank you for your input. I know we share a common feeling of missing our loved one.

I found this site a week ago and then I signed up three days ago so I can write on here and share my feelings after three years of losing my wife. I have a lot of feelings I had my doctor and Chaplin and other people tell me to go see a counselor and I tried one the first year she passed and all that did was  pissed me off and made me mad, she said I need to get on with life. The first year was kind of numb second year was bad and this third year is even worse and so I tried a counselor again and it was a total waste of time, but I think reading here on this website and to share my feelings on it and to get feedback does help some. Thank you to the people who have written back to me and I am sorry for you guys who have lost a loved one too because we all know what we’re dealing with.

I’m not sure how to start this but a week ago I found this site for widowed and widowers and started reading these things and then three days ago I signed up so I could type my feelings in it and one thing I found there’s people in here that try to scam you. I have had three of them so far that sound nice at first and then it starts getting weird and then the next day I see their account’s been deactivated or this place shut them out so you really got to be careful what is real and what’s not. I think most of what’s written in here by people is real but when they start to want to chat with you just be aware. I’m 76 and all this new technology is hard to figure out so I just wanted to post and let people know. Of course most of you probably already do but I’m new to this and this is something. I think reading and posting that most people here are real. I’m feeling the same thing that you are. It’s been three years since I lost my wife and I’m still in pain and have a lot of sadness every day. Take care and I’m sorry for your loss I know what you are feeling.

I am a 76 year old widower lost my wife 3 years ago and was married for 45 years.

After these last 3 years I still cannot figure out what to do with the sadness and crying off and on I feel everday and the need to be able to touch her and her to me.

How are others dealing with the sadness and missing the intimacy that we had for all those years.

I try to do thing to relieve these feeling but then feel bad for doing so.

Sometimes I just cannot figure it out what to do

To put it nicely being widowed is the pits.

I am a 76 year old widower lost my wife 3 years ago and was married for 45 years.

After these last 3 years I still cannot figure out what to do with the sadness and crying off and on I feel everday and the need to be able to touch her and her to me.

How are others dealing with the sadness and missing the intimacy that we had for all those years.

I try to do thing to relieve these feeling but then feel bad for doing so.

Sometimes I just cannot figure it out what to do

To put it nicely being widowed is the pits.