u/broma22

My fiance and I are coming up there for the day, and we want to get a late lunch/early dinner somewhere. We haven’t spent a ton of time in CDA (at least not for the food scene) so looking for recommendations!

I’d really like to go to a hidden gem, or somewhere family owned that has fabulous food! We are foodies, so any type of food is welcome! We don’t drink, so places that aren’t centered around having a cocktail menu or huge beer list would be great (no taphouses, wineries, sports bar and grills). Also not looking for fancy restaurants, we like decent portions for reasonable prices, no tasting menu places, and moderately priced 😁

TYIA!

New to this sub, and new to this life. I (30F) found out my fiancé (34M) has been emotionally unfaithful to me for the past 8 months. DDay1 was February 27 when I opened his phone to make sure he had an alarm set for the day and Grindr was open with recent messages from that night. I didn’t do or say anything that day or for a few weeks even to start. I was devastated. I needed to know more. Was this a one time thing? Was it recurring? Was he meeting up with anyone? Turns out, he had been on Grindr messaging people, exchanging nudes, and sexting for months at that point. He swears up and down that there was never a meetup, and I (think) I believe him. I confronted him for the first time around the middle of March, and he admitted to all I asked him about. He was honest about what he had been doing. He said that he is battling sex addiction. (It should be noted that he [says] he’s not gay or into men at all, but he is into..that kind of thing, but isn’t specific to a male partner, that’s just who is normally into what he’s into.) It’s now July and he never stopped despite multiple conversations where I told him that I knew he was still doing it. I couldn’t even tell you what DDay I’m on at this point, because almost every day has been a DDay.

I don’t know what to do. I WANT reconciliation. I do. We have a 3 year old daughter. We are supposed to get married next year. I’m in IC but he doesn’t believe in counseling/therapy, so he’s not in counseling and I doubt he would be open to MC/CC. I have (unfortunately) been gaslighting myself trying to convince myself that it’s not that bad, it’s harmless, it’s not physical, etc. but the fact of the matter is that I am hurt, angry, betrayed, and longing for honesty, reconnection, and a healed (or at least healing) attachment system.

I guess I’m looking for anyone who has had experience with this. If there is anyone. I don’t know. ☹️🫩

Anyone else’s newly potty trained toddlers use the potty as an excuse to get out of bed when they’re supposed to be going to sleep?

My daughter tonight asked to get up and go potty, so of course I got her out of bed, took her, she went pee, told her I was proud of her for listening to her body, washed hands, and I put her back to bed. 10 minutes later? She did it again. But this time, we got to the potty, and surprise! she didn’t have to pee.

Anyone else experience this? How did you deal with it?

Edit: she is 3 years and 6 days old. Sorry, I thought I could add more than 1 flair, and had selected the “3 year old” as well lol.