u/brookylini

AITBA for choosing to distance myself after friend accused *me* of being racist and then said it was a joke

This happened on thursday (Aug. 13). I only share two classes with this friend, one of them being digital marketing.

My teacher told us to get into partners to complete a questionnaire. I, obviously, turned to this friend and asked to work together. He told me that he didn't want to work with me and then said I was racist.

Mind you, I am hispanic + latina and I've NEVER been racist to someone, not in pub nor priv because I've been taught by my parents growing up that saying the N word is a hard NO. For example, I do listen to songs that contain this word, but when I'm singing along, I don't mention the N word, neither do I hum it.

Anyways, I told him "look, I'm not racist, can I know who told you this about me?", he then told me that my own sister told him the day before.

Atp, I was already hurt, I get my sister was out for vengeance, but I didn't think she'd go this far as to ruin my friendship with this guy and spread lies about me.

Since I knew I wasn't gonna be able to convince him I wasn't racist, I went back to my desk. When I was about to sit down he told me it was a prank and my sister had NEVER said that about me.

I was so mad that I couldn't look at him the same and I'm not sure if I can talk to him on Monday given I'll have that class with him again that day.

So today I was playing ftf on a lvl 143 alt acct with my sis on a lvl 86 alt acct asw. We decided to beef with eachother for fun. We both agreed it was okay to not save eachother, hack while the other one's dying, camp one another, etc. to make the beef seem genuine. Somewhere along the way, during my beast round (arcade) , I camped her, but I didn't camp anyone else. Because it was not their fault that my sister and I decided to fake beef.

I let her call me out in chat and call me a camper.

Once she dies, I go after the other people, get them all WITHOUT camping them and then win. Some guy who was a lvl 31 called me a camper in chat and saying that I shouldn't be revisiting tubes and that that's considered camping.

Like, what? If the person was still loosing health after 10-15 seconds, I would go and revisit the tube, I'd check my surroundings, and then walk away again. It's not my fault he decided to run into my face. When I explained to him exactly that, he said I should ONLY revisit tubes if I'm chasing someone. That IS a fair point, but also, if they take a suspicious amount of time to save, shouldn't beast be allowed to go back and check just incase they're about to save? Personally, that's my strategy, and I've never gotten this kind of complaint before.

Afterwards we played on abandoned facility, my sister went afk because she doesn't like playing while she's eating, but the REAL beef this dude and I were having was tea enough to make her stay. She hid mayority of the round, got captured, and I let her freeze because she said she didn't want to be saved, it'd be reckless to risk my life for someone who's still gonna be afk watching youtube videos. So atp only me and this dude were left, the last two pcs were chemistry and tv room (dbls) and so I attempted for chemistry a lot bc it was rly advanced. I will say the beef wasn't bad enough bc we saved eachother. Afterwards, I started noticing how much he would follow me, and the beast would suddenly pop up. But she would only end up hitting him again and again, while I ran away. Later at the conveyor, he was following me again, so I ran, and she ended up hitting him instead of me, so I took the advantage of hacking chemistry, finished it, and headed for statue exit.

His health was gonna last about 6-8 seconds, mind you. So then HE got captured and I stayed back and opened the exit. He froze before I was done opening it, and then I escaped because the beast was already coming. He called me petty for not saving him, but it's unrealistic that I would've gotten there when he was in that one room that has a closet that leads to a secret room with a snowman.

Next round is ghost town, the lvl 31 is beast, my sister is still afk, so naturally, she asks the beast to kill her off. She goes right back to watching videos once she dies. Then, my other teammate gets captured and he hits this guy but never captures him and the other girl unfortunately died in one hit because he kept blocking every place I could save her from (she was captured at train).

Then I started running, hacking, running, hacking, he seemed to know my location EVERY time, so, I told my sister to stop watching videos and to let me spectate on her screen, then I saw how weirdly he moved, and I spectated the lvl 11 (my only other teammate) and saw that he was hacking, so I was like, 'okay, i'm gonna steer clear from that area he's hacking at and distract the beast'. Mind you he still knew my location. Then, I saw the logo that he was no longer finishing the final computer. I went back to check on that church computer he was advancing, and it turned out to be almost done. The beast runnered up there but I finished the computer. The lvl 11 found me and then... he started to follow me around.

So that's when I realized: Not only did I have 1 teammate snitching, but I also had another teammate who followed me around to ALSO snitch instead of doing sh*t.

At the end, the beast did a mistake, and thought I was opening barn when I was opening bar. I escaped. When we spawned back in lobby I sent exactly this:

"Yk what I love"
Him: What.
"That while you were spectating ME, I was spectating YOU."

He denied it, and I left with my win.

(I AM SO SORRY FOR THIS LONG STORY GUYS)

Back in 7th grade, I befriended someone -who we will call "C"- named C, who was nice and shared a couple of things. We talked and had lots in common, Until 2 weeks later, when she started having a huge change, little did I know that was going to be the beginning of the end of our friendship.

She started hanging out with my friends more and more, and some days she would ignore me entirely. She then went on and on about talking inappropriately, and it seemed like my friends were disgusted, but at the same time didn't care. They kept hanging out with her until it became worse...

She started manipulating them into hitting me. I didn't think much of it, all I thought about was the pain it was causing me. She also started saying a whole load of crap about me to my friends and classmates so they wouldn't talk to me. It worked on half of my classmates and most of my friends.

Then came the worst day of my life.

During EESS, we were having an argument, and it was heating up, it wasn't physical, it was just words (that's what I preferred so they called me weak), so then, out of nowhere, she pulled my hair and I could no longer hold in all the depression she had caused me. So I started crying. My teacher seemed to deeply care for me and then 3 of my classmates stepped up (I love you S, AE, and RA, thank you!) and took me to the counselor.

We then had a meeting and discussed with C that this wouldn't happen ever again, and to make sure of that I had to stay away from her and all classes would be notified that I can't be paired up with her for any sort of project.

Did that work? Absolutely not.

Not only a day later she went back to talking her crap and then successfully manipulated the other girls at the table to agree with her that she did nothing wrong and that it was my fault. As soon as I arrive there, they all start throwing shade at me and saying that I'm weak and I'm such a b*tch for crying and it wasn't even that hard.

One idea popped into my brain, and I didn't think it through because I no longer cared. What was that idea? Dump them all. And that's exactly what I did.

Unfortunately, C was still in my class and she repeatedly continued to try and bully me, everyone at the "old table" hated me now, but I couldn't care less.

Afterwards I had a huge fight with everyone else at the table, and the friendship ended. I didn't say anything at the time because I didn't want any drama, and I thought that what happens during the friendship, stays in the friendship. But that wasn't the case for C. C went ahead and told everyone that I started the fight so no one would feel sympathy for me.

The following year, when I tried befriending people, she'd drag them away and tell them I was a mean b*tch. I still managed to keep a friend around who she couldn't convince, though.

Then in 10th grade she got expelled. Now I'm going to Junior year, I still get bullied by a bunch of people, and I'm wondering if it's 4 years too late to finally speak my side. I can't handle the bullying and it's getting to a point where I have to watch if I walk too fast. Every. Single. Movement. Gets. Judged.

Would I be in the wrong for finally speaking out?

Back in 7th grade, I befriended someone -who we will call "C"- named C, who was nice and shared a couple of things. We talked and had lots in common, Until 2 weeks later, when she started having a huge change, little did I know that was going to be the beginning of the end of our friendship.

She started hanging out with my friends more and more, and some days she would ignore me entirely. She then went on and on about talking inappropriately, and it seemed like my friends were disgusted, but at the same time didn't care. They kept hanging out with her until it became worse...

She started manipulating them into hitting me. I didn't think much of it, all I thought about was the pain it was causing me. She also started saying a whole load of crap about me to my friends and classmates so they wouldn't talk to me. It worked on half of my classmates and most of my friends.

Then came the worst day of my life.

During EESS, we were having an argument, and it was heating up, it wasn't physical, it was just words (that's what I preferred so they called me weak), so then, out of nowhere, she pulled my hair and I could no longer hold in all the depression she had caused me. So I started crying. My teacher seemed to deeply care for me and then 3 of my classmates stepped up (I love you S, AE, and RA, thank you!) and took me to the counselor.

We then had a meeting and discussed with C that this wouldn't happen ever again, and to make sure of that I had to stay away from her and all classes would be notified that I can't be paired up with her for any sort of project.

Did that work? Absolutely not.

Not only a day later she went back to talking her crap and then successfully manipulated the other girls at the table to agree with her that she did nothing wrong and that it was my fault. As soon as I arrive there, they all start throwing shade at me and saying that I'm weak and I'm such a b*tch for crying and it wasn't even that hard.

One idea popped into my brain, and I didn't think it through because I no longer cared. What was that idea? Dump them all. And that's exactly what I did.

Unfortunately, C was still in my class and she repeatedly continued to try and bully me, everyone at the "old table" hated me now, but I couldn't care less.

Afterwards I had a huge fight with everyone else at the table, and the friendship ended. I didn't say anything at the time because I didn't want any drama, and I thought that what happens during the friendship, stays in the friendship. But that wasn't the case for C. C went ahead and told everyone that I started the fight so no one would feel sympathy for me.

The following year, when I tried befriending people, she'd drag them away and tell them I was a mean b*tch. I still managed to keep a friend around who she couldn't convince, though.

Then in 10th grade she got expelled. Now I'm going to Junior year, I still get bullied by a bunch of people, and I'm wondering if it's 4 years too late to finally speak my side. I can't handle the bullying and it's getting to a point where I have to watch if I walk too fast. Every. Single. Movement. Gets. Judged.

Would I be in the wrong for finally speaking out?