u/brrr-its-warm

not necessarily talking about intepersonal team issues or surge of workload, but more of "bad days" where you make mistakes and not really performing 100 percent of your productivity capabilities.

For example, had a meeting today with the team regarding some of our products. the meeting took too long, and was spent more of clarifying objectives than actually going to the meat of the agenda. and one of my staff who put this very well was that the meeting was a waste of time because we didnt go through the agenda. she hit it nail in the head! i knew it wasnt going well, and i knew why - didnt make it clear enough to set the goals right from the beginning, so everyone knew what to expect. and i thought to myself, why did i make that mistake? i knew from the get go you set every goal/objective and make sure to stick everything right there; meetings shouldnt exceed more than an hour and if u do something is definitely wrong etc. definitely today was a fail on that regard, and i dont want that to happen again because it impacts the team.

when I was IC it was easier to manage the mistakes because it was contaibed and is part of the job learning process. but as manager youre not expected to do those things, and if u do, more people do get affected.

so in times like these, how do you manage your "bad days"?

Hello, currently the eldest of two siblings. My brother has been unemployed for 5 months, but struggled to find a job before he landed this first one. and he got fired for performance issues. from the get go, my brother has mental health issues, which improved somewhat with therapy but he is still struggling. particularly he is anxious whenever he is at work, and anxious when he wasnt employed. Dealing with his anxiety and frustrations about not finding a job was stressful, because i was the only one who was helping through everything. My family all around me have relied on me ever since we were kids to take care of my brother whenever he had problems with school, other people, and they do so continue now. frankly am super tired of it, but i couldnt leave my brother behind because i know he is emotionally stunted and cannot survive on his own. i also know my brother kind of sees me as a parental figure as well because no one in my family wants to be involved with him.

not looking at advice to deal with this, because ive heard all of it, but i wanted to see if there are others in tthis same situation who have success stories. like how some people who have reached their lowest point were able to bounce back. i wanted to see in other people's families if people like my brother were able to bounce back.

TLDR: looking for success stories of eldest supporting unemployed siblings because I am currently dealing with this and want to see how others have fared or if there is a silver lining to it all.