u/bruh3ater

Hello I’m brand new to this sub, I played this game for the first time years ago, I’m just now getting back into it.

I’m the farthest I have gotten, just recently got the campsite built, and my first visitor has arrived. I do not like them. I accidentally talked to them and they asked me to talk to the higher ups to see it they can move in, I eventually forgot and talked to Tom (I wanted to move my house) and he had asked me if I was ready to place the visitors house, I said i was busy.

Is there a way for me to just wait it out and eventually this visitor at my campsite will go away?

Or are they just stuck in limbo until I build their house and eventually get them off my island?

I am trans, pre-everything, have been out publicly for 6+ years now.

I started this job and immediately told my employer my pronouns and preferred name in the interview. When I got hired, they got right on changing my deadname out for my actually name on the schedule and on everything that could be see by my other employees.

One small issue, originally our clock in method displayed everyone’s legal name, including my deadname. Everyone was trying to figure out who this one person was, because no one here went by that name?, it just genuinely gets on my nerve don’t be doing that to people.

I’ve noticed that no one refers to me as a male or he/him (except for a few people). Our job is predominantly female lead and I’ve had a few new hires ask me even AFTER I tell them how I identify “have any guys worked here?” oh nice.

We finally did get a “guy” hired and he seemed way too excited to be working with “all women.”
The jokes he says make me uncomfortable, and a few other of my co-workers as well. I’m extremely un-confrontational so I’ll just laugh it off and look at him weird.
Theres this big piece of equipment in our store as well that looks heavy, but it’s really not, I can lift it over my head. I HAVE been for almost a year now with 0 help? This dude was saying something along the lines of “I know women can carry heavy things but biologically men are stronger and built to carry heavier”
or whatever stupid shit that was coming out of his mouth. I laughed at him and said I can carry IT OVER MY HEAD.

I have not told this guy yet how I identify, for safety purposes. (I just met him.) It turns out though that he has asked a few of my co-workers if I was a boy or girl, they both said boy.
So why does he CONTINUE to call me a she??

And another thing, the old men customers keep staring at me extremely weird and complimenting/saying really weird things to me that make me extremely uncomfortable. They don’t even realize I’m a man.

Today a guy I barely see comes in asked for a drink, I’m a nice person and I want to do my job so I smile get him the things he ordered. He said “That’s my girl.” and winked with way too much direct eye-contact. I just stood there and smiled to be nice and walked away as fast as I could because what the actual fuck is wrong with people you don’t say that shit to anyone. I have been cringing all day.

I hate the shit people say to me. I not a woman and I am ESPECIALLY NOT YOUR WOMAN??? Who I am at work is not who I am on my own time. This person you may THINK you see and know is not fucking me. Thats some ass version/idea of me that YOU created, that shit is not real. Leave me the FUCK alone.

I’m a bi ass dude with a boyfriend. FUCK. I really don’t want to wear a pronoun pin but SHIT if it’ll work.

Maybe I do need to be more confrontational and less of a people pleaser and correct people but fuck I really don’t want to be doing that I just want to be fucking respected how I respect everyone. I just want that shit to be reciprocated.

My voice feels so unheard everywhere I go no one fucking respects me. I am constantly trying to respect everyone even if they don’t deserve it, they’re a person YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY’RE GOING THROUGH.

fuck my brain.

edit: I’m not sure if misogyny was the right term to use in the title, I don’t really know what the term to use would be.