u/buckytheplumsoldier_

My dad(44) died in his sleep a month ago. His dad died young as well but due to multiple strokes . A year ago, my dad fainted and started seizing in the gym. He was fine after. No confusion, pain, nothing. And now a month ago, the day before he died, he has a seizure, loss control of his bladder, but no confusion afterwards, went to the hospital, all scans and checks came back fine, and then came home, ate and slept, woke up at 6 am to help drop my mothers bags downstairs, went back to sleep and died. His position went vertical on his side of the bed to horizontal with his head on my
Mother’s side of the bed. Many of his family members have died young as well but it was always because of obesity. He was always 100% healthy, was overweight then lost the weight, started going gym building his muscle, never had an issue with anything regarding to health, other than a back problem he’s had.

Other than those two episodes he had, never had a seizure in his life.

Any ideas? Was this SUDEP?

My dad died a month ago, I’m 18F. I have a big social circle, I depend greatly on my social life to maintain my mental health. I’ve always had struggles with my mental health (depression and anxiety ). My mom has been very depressed , crying screaming calling for my dad. It really hurts me to see her like that. But since he passed, all I’ve been doing is going out with friends and making myself busy. I tend to realize when I isolate myself at home, I feel extremely anxious. I go down the rabbit hole of why, what if, how. Im barely crying, there’s a hole inside my heart now but for some reason I don’t feel sad, I feel empty , I don’t feel real. I go out everyday , I wonder if my mom cares about it, if I look selfish and uncaring.

I am taking care of my mom, I try my best to , but I feel like I don’t know how to do that. I’ve never dealt with the passing of someone before, so it’s hard.

I don’t feel normal, maybe I havent processed it?

There are times where I burst out and fall on the floor crying, usually when it’s 4 am, late at night, and something inside me hits where I explode.

Am I normal for this? Going out, trying to have fun. Is grief isolation?

Hi everyone! Im 18F, and I’ve always been a huge empath my whole life. I feel peoples emotions and thoughts in a way it consumes me. and my father died a month ago unexpectedly in his sleep, he was very young , 44. Ever since , I’ve been deeply affected, depressed, and anxious, but im pushing through, because I know if I don’t it’s worse off. My mom on the other hand, no showers, no getting out of bed, crying constantly, drinking 24/7 and it’s really affecting me. I can PHYSICALLY feel her pain, even when im not close to her. And it hurts me so bad. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s not, I really am trying everything I can do to help her but I’ve reached a point where I don’t know what to say or do anymore. My anxiety is bad, so im extremely worried for my mom’s mental health, what she might do to herself, or something like that. Her and my dad were best friends, her only friend I would say, so I can imagine how hard this is for her, she’s all alone now. It’s extremely depressing on me too but for some reason I feel like I’m not allowing myself to grieve over it. I found him dead and i haven’t been able to even process this. Never would have I expected this to happen, the worst thing is we don’t even know why he died! Today my mother was drunk and didn’t sleep til 11AM. For some reason this really affected me. I had to leave the house and I couldn’t even function properly because of just imagining my mother’s pain. I don’t know what to do anymore, I feel lost, like I have no one , im too young to be experiencing this. I miss my dad, but I know he’s somewhere happy . I just don’t know what to do anymore. Or if she will ever get better.

Hi everyone! Im 18F, and my father died a month ago unexpectedly in his sleep, he was very young , 44. Ever since , I’ve been deeply affected, depressed, and anxious, but im pushing through, because I know if I don’t it’s worse off. My mom on the other hand, no showers, no getting out of bed, crying constantly, drinking 24/7 and it’s really affecting me. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s not, I really am trying everything I can do to help her but I’ve reached a point where I don’t know what to say or do anymore. My anxiety is bad, so im extremely worried for my mom’s mental health, what she might do to herself, or something like that. Her and my dad were best friends, her only friend I would say, so I can imagine how hard this is for her, she’s all alone now. It’s extremely depressing on me too but for some reason I feel like I’m not allowing myself to grieve over it. I found him dead and i haven’t been able to even process this. Never would have I expected this to happen, the worst thing is we don’t even know why he died! Today my mother was drunk and didn’t sleep til 11AM. For some reason this really affected me. I had to leave the house and I couldn’t even function properly because of just imagining my mother’s pain. I don’t know what to do anymore, I feel lost, like I have no one , im too young to be experiencing this. I miss my dad, but I know he’s somewhere happy . I just don’t know what to do anymore. Or if she will ever get better.