u/burnbright_11

so I’m a good 70lbs overweight, out of shape, and am extremely bored with the gym.

I somehow talked a friend into possibly joining me for a martial arts class (she has no experience either, but she’s thin, and in better shape than I am). Many martial arts/boxing places in my area also have a bit of a “dude bro” vibe and that makes me a bit nervous.

Is signing up for this kind of thing stupid? Like sounds really fun, either boxing or martial arts, but like I’m worried even showing up as out of shape as I am is stupid. Like maybe I should lose weight first before trying something complicated.

I don’t have tiktok and rarely use instagram. My main vices are YouTube and Reddit.

Over the last few days, I’ve been on a bit of a self-loathing, resentful depression spiral. I’ve been using Reddit to look up shitty “advice” that is too vague to help - or that I won’t bother to implement. Alternatively, I’ve been lurking in subreddits filled with miserable/annoying/judgmental people. I think I’m looking for the magical piece of advice that will get rid of my social anxiety, self-hatred, and insecurities (haven’t found it yet).

I’ve always attributed my social media addiction to my ADHD - therefore, on some level, the addiction can’t be helped. Being bored is almost painful. But, if the social media is also making my anxiety worse, then I have to find a way to log off.