u/byerd

We have twin sons and we had their middle names be after our fathers. To make a long story short, my father did something so very horrible to me and my family that we are now no contact.

I’d really like to change my son’s middle name, because I don’t think it’s fair that one twin is named after someone so wonderful and the other someone so terrible. But also I know if I were to change it, he’d have to deal with the headache of name change paperwork.

Is it worth it to change it? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Had their name changed as a baby/toddler and have any grievances about it?

We have 18 month old mo/di boys and every time we go out in public, we’re either someone else’s entertainment or treated like an inconvenience if we go somewhere like a cafe. It’s so irritating!

I know twins are a cute novelty to other people but im like please don’t talk to them because they’re going to be scared of you and start crying and then you leave and im stuck with two crying babies and then it starts all over again with the next person! And then the dirty looks from other people are just as bad. Like sorry my twins exist in public, can I just order a croissant in peace? It’s not like they’re out here throwing food and making a mess and when they start to cry we just leave. Ugh, rant over. Just sucks.