u/catsuramen

My sister and her family are currently living in Hong Kong. I recently learned from chatting with my elderly (69 & 69) parents that brother-in-law used my parents address to apply for multiple credit cards. He had also named himself as permanent resident at my parents address on his newly acquired green card. To get his green card, he opened up a credit card under his name using my parents address as a show of proof of residency.

None of these was explained and known by my parents. All these mail in his name just start showing up one day and he requests these to be re-routed back to him.

Furthermore, he started using my parents address to apply for credit cards under his sister's, mom's, brother's, dad's name. All these mail are showing up without notice and consent. I suspect he is using other people's info to grab credit card bonus points and also leave the debt unpaid.

I got quite furious and immediately recognizes that is fraud and will jeopardizes my parents eligibility for Medicaid and SNAP since it will violate the "household" rule.

So, I snapped back and messaged my BIL that he can't do this anymore. I am also planning on reporting to USCIS as soon as possible. My sister is angry at me but I am thinking for my elderly parents' best interests. AITA?

Earlier this year I have learned that a mutual friend of my husband and I had gotten engaged but only invited my husband to be in the wedding party and wedding.

I felt hurt by it but it is their wedding after all, so their shots. It was especially hurtful that this engaged couple was in our bridal party back 2 years ago.

Recently, all these bridal talk in group hangouts immediately makes it feel lonely and outcasted. They are friendly on the surface with me, but deep down knowing that I am not invited and my husband is, hurts. They would continue to have these bridal talk when I am present, knowing fully I am not invited.

Even though I put up a cordial front to avoid conflict, I can no longer wish them good graces anymore. I have also discussed this with my husband, but he is on their side and saying I am too sensitive. So not only do I feel unwelcomed by them, but also unheard from my husband.

I am thinking of withdrawing myself completely from this group but that might make me "small". But by protecting their peace, I am also hurting myself.

Note: this group has recently picked up using hard drugs in EDM festivals, then smaller concerts, and now just hangouts. My husband also started using, but I hate these things but would still join in sober. This might have something to do with it.