My friend and I are set to fly in to PR in a few weeks for the San Juan stop. However, there’s now a state of emergency with the water crisis. Even if our accommodations are okay, we don’t want to put additional stress on the water when locals are struggling.
Anyone in a similar boat? We are keeping an eye out, but we aren’t sure how long to “wait and see” or if we’d be able to get refunds to see her in Miami instead..
I’m the eldest daughter of three, and I’ve basically been no contact with my mom for 5+ years. She always had anger issues growing up, but had a full blown MBD (alcoholism, bipolar, borderline) 5 years ago where she started becoming very emotionally and psychologically abusive. We tried to get her help countless times, her and my stepdad wouldn’t face themselves, and it just got worse and worse.
I’m in a place where I’m gassed out. Even though I’m no contact I always heard about everything through my siblings and provided emotional support while they were trying to “save” her. I even broke no contact when we all flew to Florida to help her after a crisis which felt like it took years off my life.
My siblings and I have always been close, but the past 5 years have been incredibly difficult and caused interpersonal conflict. My sister wants to save my mom/keep her alive. I’m trying to keep myself alive which I’ve told them multiple times, but it always comes back to how it get to be in this position of not helping and she doesn’t. My siblings want me to move to NYC where they are and this became my goal and dream. Murphy’s law, we started fighting about Mom more these past 6 months, and I don’t feel comfortable moving there at this moment.
The grief is crushing, I thought I’d start a whole new life soon in the big city. But it feels like my siblings and I are on two different planets, they can’t hear many of my points, it’s like talking to a wall.
I feel like I’m at a crossroads of what to do next. I can deal with not speaking to my mom, but this sibling conflict feels excruciating. I’m not sure if anyone can relate but I feel lost.