u/chaos2727

I know joining the US military is not one of the most popular paths pushed by Asian parents, but I hope you all at least hear me out: It can be a great way to pay for college (and break free from Asian parents' toxic control sooner). Most of us know that Asian parents try to control their kids' educational choices by holding the fact they are paying the tuition.

Joining the military involves taking the ASVAB (a standardized test with math, general science, mechanical comprehension, etc). If you can do decently well on the SAT, you will probably ace the ASVAB and get better positions in the military.

Pro tip: The Air Force is the branch that is the most coveted and the least physically strenuous. Of all the branches, the Air Force requires the highest ASVAB score (but I suspect even the Air Force requirements would be a cake walk for Asian kids who have been pressured and molded to be as book smart as possible).

This advice is primarily for Asian Americans who are still in middle school and high school. Maybe this path won't give your parents the bragging rights they want, but it will give you the ability to develop and break free from their toxic control sooner.

This advice also comes from someone who did all the "right" things in her childhood, went the prestige route of going to an Ivy League college, went to law school, and depended on her parents to pay for her tuition. I married someone who did the military route, and wish I was smart enough to follow his path when I was younger.

I have a 2 (almost 3) year old. He is a bright kid, but he is very high maintenance. He screams and hits me or my husband when he doesn't get his way, he takes a long time to adjust in unfamiliar environments (we put him in daycare starting January of this year and he only stopped crying in daycare this month), etc.

I recently found out I am pregnant again (baby is due in late February 2027/early March 2027). I am honestly terrified. Not sure if I am ready to take care of a second baby, considering how high maintenance my son is. My best friend is also a mom (she has a daughter the same age as my son), and her daughter is significantly easier than my son (doesn't cry much, allows unfamiliar people to hold her, etc). I find myself praying that my second baby is similar to my best friend's baby because I'm honestly not sure how I'd manage it if the second baby is similar to my son.

The case tracker says RFE response was received on May 11. I know PP promises 15 business day response. To manage my anxiety, I'm wondering for those of you guys who submitted a RFE response under PP, how long did it take for you to get a response back (whether it was approval or denial)?