u/chapstix0314

My (26) husband (27) and I have been very on the fence about when to try for a baby. We got married less than a month ago and have had multiple conversations about waiting a few years because of debt, not being where we want to be in terms of salary and job stability, living in an apartment, and also wanting to enjoy being married just by ourselves for a few years before making a solid decision on if we want kids.

We never made a decision to start trying, but our wedding night we didn’t use protection. I have PCOS and he’s been told he has low mobility, so I wasn’t too worried about it. We even had a convo probably about a week ago where we agreed not to do that again because we both aren’t ready, but that it was probably fine that one time because we both have fertility issues. However, I’ve been feeling very brain foggy, have been cramping, had a tiny bit of nausea, and then last night I had a very vivid dream that I was pregnant. I took a test today and within 2 minutes it was positive.

I haven’t even told my husband yet. I’m terrified because I don’t know if he’ll be excited or only feel stressed. As much as I want a family with him, we have both very openly agreed we aren’t ready and there are so many things that terrify me about bringing a child into this world. I guess I’m not really looking for advice, more just needed to get these feelings off my chest. On the one hand, I feel very lucky it happened so quickly as I always expected we would have a really hard time getting pregnant, but on the other hand, this is not when I would’ve chosen for this to happen. If anyone has words of encouragement, I could really use them right now.

I realize this is a long shot, but I have nowhere else to turn. Is anyone in this sub involved with the Ironman 70.3 triathlon taking place in Boise on Saturday the 25th?

The bike course which shuts down a good chunk of highway 21 will be closed from 3am-10am that day. The issue is, July 25th is our wedding day and this directly cuts off access to our wedding venue from both sides. We need people to be there so we can start getting ready and setting up by 8am, and this sets us back significantly.

Does anyone know if they allow access for people whose residences are restricted by the closures (the owners of our venue live on-site as it is a ranch)? Is there anything we can do? We’ve reached out by phone and email to the race’s community relations team, and no one is responding. I’m growing desperate. If you’ve read this far, thank you, and let me know if you know anything!