Husband had terrible destructive episode after gettingcaught
I am turning 29 in 3 weeks and my husband and I have been together 6 years. He’s had to travel for work 80% of our relationship. He always had a porn habit but never realized how bad it got. On February 7th, I found on his phone that he had been anonymously attempting to sext women through Reddit/snapchat. When I confronted him, he denied and denied until finally blaming me for it, crying, and pulling out a weapon threatening to off himself. He completely trashed our bedroom and my wedding bouquet is destroyed, bed flipped over, broken glass. I’ll try to attach photos in comments. In our first apartment he had also punched holes in the walls twice bc we had a bad argument. He’s broken things around me and pulled out the g*n before after I had found porn. Now I left for a week and he found a therapist and 12 step program for his issue. But later it came out that he had paid over $400 on camgirls last summer and also visited sketchy massage parlors. I’m in a 12 step anon group to get help for myself. Ultimately I want to leave him but I’ve never supported myself before. It’s only 3 months in and I’m nervous. We are in separate bedrooms and just focusing on our own recoveries. He’s yelled at me a lot and hit himself. Other times, he has been thoughtful and kind like doing chores, spoiling me, being thoughtful etc. It’s very confusing bc my urge to file for divorce is strong simply bc I can’t seem to overlook what he’s done. I feel bad for him bc it seems he has serious issues. His late father had bipolar. He is 31 and has yet to be diagnosed.