Asking other Men: Should I just give him the money?
My boyfriend and I been living together for 9 years. I have always made more money than him. Occasionally he would bring it up that it bothers him because he feels less of man most of the time. Now that we are in our 40s I feel like its bothering him more. I took on another job that is paying more than the last one. For him his job hours got cut so he barely makes any. His car broke, he got child support coming for him, then he got sick. He is really frustrated and keep saying he doesn’t know what to do. I have made some suggestions without offering help, and he didn’t want any because he doesn’t wanna look like a “bitch” (in his words) I feel like he has so much pride that he has gotten to the point in time where he can’t stand himself for being where he is at and he doesn’t know what to do. I feel like he is trying to compete with me and I’m not even trying.
I kinda offer him that I can pay for some things as usual and he sad no, keep my money he will figure out.
I want us to go on a date, I want to take him on a date. Again we have lived together for 9 years.. we go on dates and whoever has money pays. I am torn whether to just fund his emergencies or let him figure that out and me and him go on a date.
For men out there, if you are him- would you rather have me just give you the money without asking or respect your decision you will figure out on your own and just let me take you on a date night.
Thanks in advance.