u/chorddesigner

tldr: how to handle situation while keeping my peace, roommate talks to me when i dont want to talk after her disrespecting me and my boundaries. she doesn’t take no for an answer and has begun teasing me like asking if im crying or accusing me of making significant noises when i had been outside all day.

rest of post just explains details of situation

i have a little over two months left in my lease and i want to handle the remainder of this situation with grace, while also prioritizing my personal peace. (university housing)

this roommate when i first moved in was hostile about the kitchen. she said if i break anything i must pay (said i prefer using my own stuff), you better keep this place clean (shes the one who leaves messes), no you are not allowed cabinet space just conjoin our belongings together (but theres no space literally). she also moves my things away but will leave her things all over the kitchen. i’ve asked her to at least leave one portion of the sink cleared and she wants me to move HER dirty dishes 5x day because “stacking dishes will cause them to break” even tho before she assured me its okay to move them they wont break. ive given compromises on the sink solution and she refused, because her way is the right way.

anyways. there are plenty of other annoying things but she actually seemed to keep the sink cleared after refusing to do so, so ive been trying to be mindful of her boundaries to keep the peace.

when i first moved in, i would greet her whenever and be super friendly. even invited her to parties/help for university related things. eventually i guess she just doesnt like me (because i set boundaries on keeping quiet hours and asking for access to kitchen sink) and started to ignore me or be rude like sighing when she sees me. so i decided to just not talk to her at all.

she has begun coming out when im in the kitchen cooking to cook next to me (tight kitchen where u literally have to move every second). im totally ok with sharing spaces at the same time but this has never happened until she made a huge deal about the sink. i forgot to mention but she was hostile and basically refused and said “u need to learn how to share”.

anyways she just tries to talk to me and accused me of making “banging noises” when she literally had just heard me come home 😭 like i was literally out all day. she refuses to take my silence as an answer and even came up to my face and was like are u crying why are u so upset. idk i just feel like shes bullying me.

i can handle the disrespect with shared spaces but the bullying is too much. how can i handle this with peace? how do i keep her from talking to me? especially since i LOVE cooking and i see it as my peaceful time. (i dont wanna wear headphones bc being unaware makes me more anxious)

last yr i was not eligible for cal grant but i am this year. assuming i get the same amount of finaid as last year, will the 15k deadass be added to my entire package or will my uci aid decrease to match my cal grant?

is there any parking i can buy near uci thats cheaper than the acc’s 365$? i just cannot swing it anymore and pv’s parking doesnt even have enough spots after like 7pm 😭

symbolic logic