u/christitan02

Hi guys i am a eme 1 player and i play voli often( if angle allows it but this is another story) and i mostly play AD voli with grap. I sometimes go the ap build but i am so often more comfy AD.
What build variations do you guys suggest
for ad i always go triforce into shojin(maybe cleaver but rarely) into spirit visage and steraks (3rd or 4th between them) and i end with a zhonya(yeah ik its ap but feels so good) or riftmaker

what can i improve on this? when is dd a good angle?

also i need more help on ap builds but i really don't like the navori build , it doesn't suit my playstyle

I (23m) come from a childhood with some traumas regarding taking care and being forced to handle stuff by yourself and just grow up. Since 12 i was like "why would i want children? to pass on the trauma? i already had to take care of people, why would i want to repeat that?"
In this point in life again i am met with some expectation of taking care of people to some extent and i am fine with it. What i am not fine with it is 24/7 responsible of someone. I am selfish i just don't want that anymore. A partener? sure i would rather be there for them at any point in time than a kid.
I've had my period of "if my partener wants them ok , if not then that s also ok" but then i just thought i just do what i've always done: pleasing others and going with the flow. So nope this is not something i can change my mind after. Kids are nice yes but not something i would tolerate especially misbehaved ones like my sisters.
i plan to have a vasectomy in the close future so i make sure no possible incidents could happen and to actually take my responsibilty about the decision i made.
Sorry for the little rant everyone, this sub helped me process some things i've battled for quite a while.