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We have an eight month old baby who we have mostly fed to sleep and then transferred to her crib or co-slept with. I know she can connect sleep cycles because she has occasionally slept a 4-hour stretch at the beginning of the night. Most of the time, she wakes up about every two or more hours at night and the sleep deprivation was getting hard for me, but harder is spending up to an hour putting her down for naps multiple times per day. We have a two year-old and I didn’t know what to do with him while I put her down for naps. He was also having meltdowns every time I took the baby into the room to put her down and I think it’s because he knew I was going to be in there for a while.

She is no longer sleeping well in the baby carrier, won’t sleep in the car, won’t be rocked to sleep, and has a hard time falling asleep in the stroller.

We have previously been opposed to sleep training, but we’re at a loss of what to do so started modified Ferber/TCB 4 days ago.

She has screamed for about an hour each night at bedtime and sometimes for hours in the middle of the night, most of the time at a 10/10. I am setting an alarm for every 2.5 hours to give her dream feeds as that is about how often she was eating prior to sleep training and we are planning to gradually wean that while really focusing on daytime calories. Her wake windows are 2.5/2.5/3 (we just barely dropped her third nap as she was skipping it most days and becoming overtired). We’ve been tracking sleep using the Huckleberry app for over a month now so I think we are pretty close on our wake windows.

At this point, I am not convinced that she is learning to self soothe. I think she is literally screaming to the point of exhaustion. She starts screaming as soon as we get near her room which is new since we started sleep training. She also wakes up crying when she previously used to wake up happy. Her eyes are swollen and she’s losing her voice.

Based on hearing/reading about other people’s experiences, I expected the crying to lessen each night and eventually stop, but that has not been our experience. I’m afraid we are torturing our baby and will not see any results. At this juncture, neither her nor I are well rested and it is impacting my mental health.

We have tried more gentle methods like sitting next to her while she falls asleep, rocking her, singing to her, the chair method, and nothing seems to work except feeding her to sleep. That’s become difficult as nobody other than me can put her down.

I guess I am just asking for advice and/or reassurance that we are doing the right things. Are there any babies who are just not meant to be sleep trained? If this isn’t working for her, I would rather call it quits sooner rather than later and go back to feeding to sleep.

Of note, she has been a tough baby and very stubborn. She has hated the car since she was a newborn and cried for six hours out of seven hours on a road trip one time.

We have an eight month old baby who we have mostly fed to sleep and then transferred to her crib or co-slept with. I know she can connect sleep cycles because she has occasionally slept a 4-hour stretch at the beginning of the night. Most of the time, she wakes up about every two or more hours at night and the sleep deprivation was getting hard for me, but harder is spending up to an hour putting her down for naps multiple times per day. We have a two year-old and I didn’t know what to do with him while I put her down for naps. He was also having meltdowns every time I took the baby into the room to put her down and I think it’s because he knew I was going to be in there for a while.

She is no longer sleeping well in the baby carrier, won’t sleep in the car, won’t be rocked to sleep, and has a hard time falling asleep in the stroller.

We have previously been opposed to sleep training, but we’re at a loss of what to do so started modified Ferber/TCB 4 days ago.

She has screamed for about an hour each night at bedtime and sometimes for hours in the middle of the night, most of the time at a 10/10. I am setting an alarm for every 2.5 hours to give her dream feeds as that is about how often she was eating prior to sleep training and we are planning to gradually wean that while really focusing on daytime calories. Her wake windows are 2.5/2.5/3 (we just barely dropped her third nap as she was skipping it most days and becoming overtired). We’ve been tracking sleep using the Huckleberry app for over a month now so I think we are pretty close on our wake windows.

At this point, I am not convinced that she is learning to self soothe. I think she is literally screaming to the point of exhaustion. She starts screaming as soon as we get near her room which is new since we started sleep training. She also wakes up crying when she previously used to wake up happy. Her eyes are swollen and she’s losing her voice.

Based on hearing/reading about other people’s experiences, I expected the crying to lessen each night and eventually stop, but that has not been our experience. I’m afraid we are torturing our baby and will not see any results. At this juncture, neither her nor I are well rested and it is impacting my mental health.

We have tried more gentle methods like sitting next to her while she falls asleep, rocking her, singing to her, the chair method, and nothing seems to work except feeding her to sleep. That’s become difficult as nobody other than me can put her down.

I guess I am just asking for advice and/or reassurance that we are doing the right things. Are there any babies who are just not meant to be sleep trained? If this isn’t working for her, I would rather call it quits sooner rather than later and go back to feeding to sleep.

Of note, she has been a tough baby and very stubborn. She has hated the car since she was a newborn and cried for six hours out of seven hours on a road trip one time.

We have an eight month old baby who we have mostly fed to sleep and then transferred to her crib or co-slept with. I know she can connect sleep cycles because she has occasionally slept a 4-hour stretch at the beginning of the night. Most of the time, she wakes up about every two or more hours at night and the sleep deprivation was getting hard for me, but harder is spending up to an hour putting her down for naps multiple times per day. We have a two year-old and I didn’t know what to do with him while I put her down for naps. He was also having meltdowns every time I took the baby into the room to put her down and I think it’s because he knew I was going to be in there for a while.

She is no longer sleeping well in the baby carrier, won’t sleep in the car, won’t be rocked to sleep, and has a hard time falling asleep in the stroller.

We have previously been opposed to sleep training, but we’re at a loss of what to do so started modified Ferber/TCB 4 days ago.

She has screamed for about an hour each night at bedtime and sometimes for hours in the middle of the night, most of the time at a 10/10. I am setting an alarm for every 2.5 hours to give her dream feeds as that is about how often she was eating prior to sleep training and we are planning to gradually wean that while really focusing on daytime calories. Her wake windows are 2.5/3/3.5 (we just barely dropped her third nap as she was skipping it most days and becoming overtired). We’ve been tracking sleep using the Huckleberry app for over a month now so I think we are pretty close on our wake windows.

At this point, I am not convinced that she is learning to self soothe. I think she is literally screaming to the point of exhaustion. She starts screaming as soon as we get near her room which is new since we started sleep training. She also wakes up crying when she previously used to wake up happy. Her eyes are swollen and she’s losing her voice.

Based on hearing/reading about other people’s experiences, I expected the crying to lessen each night and eventually stop, but that has not been our experience. I’m afraid we are torturing our baby and will not see any results. At this juncture, neither her nor I are well rested and it is impacting my mental health.

We have tried more gentle methods like sitting next to her while she falls asleep, rocking her, singing to her, the chair method, and nothing seems to work except feeding her to sleep. That’s become difficult as nobody other than me can put her down.

I guess I am just asking for advice and/or reassurance that we are doing the right things. Are there any babies who are just not meant to be sleep trained? If this isn’t working for her, I would rather call it quits sooner rather than later and go back to feeding to sleep.