u/cmcool95

Idk if I’m just coming here to rant or need advice or what so I’ll just say this.

I (30f) feel like ADHD is ruining my life. I lost my job 1.5 years ago for underperformance, got a new job 1 year ago and I am on a PIP again/ the writing is on the wall that unless I turn the trainwreck around I’m out. I am not lazy or unambitious, I just struggle to get my symptoms under control (IE executive dysfunction and paralysis from being overwhelmed.) My current job has a pretty aggressive workload at times but other times is really dull with nothing to do. I am getting married this year and terrified to lose another job and put pressure on my fiancé.

I haven’t had any issues in previous roles before I lost my last job (6 years of tenure) but the older I get, the worse the executive dysfunction gets.

My fiancé also gets very frustrated because I have a hard time self starting on literally everything except for wedding planning because I am super hyperfocused.

On top of all that, I am unmedicated. Not exactly by choice, I was medicated for about 7 months a few years ago but I was pretty young/ still interested in being a fun person and let other people take my meds when they wanted. I also just fell off on filling my prescription because…you know.

Additionally, I am late diagnosis girl (diagnosed at 26) and am having such a hard time coping with struggling every day with my brain. I just want to be normal and work to make my life easy but I find myself in such a dark place knowing that I never will and my brain will do everything to sabotage the life I want to live.

I am a 10/10 bride so coming up to the final stages of wedding planning. I’m not sure if I’m posting to vent or for advice or to warn but here are the reasons I chose WithJoy:

Most of our guests are out of town and they partner with local car dealerships to offer discounts this was a factor that I didn’t see offered by any of the major websites

The UI seemed better than some of the bigger hosting sites

HOWEVER, it doesn’t seem like most of our out of town guests are utilizing the car rental discount and we have had major problems

1. Their travel section redirected our guests from our room block and took them to a 3rd party website that booked them at a much higher rate and confused a lot of guests
2. The registry is a lot more expensive than any other website and while we have encouraged our guests to shop around, I understand the convenience of ordering directly from the registry but some guests feel like they’re getting screwed. I have had to explain the concept of shopping around to grown adults which is frustrating bc every e-commerce place sets their own price but it’s frustrating
3. My main frustration, everything I picked for our registry was unavailable once people started purchasing. We now have to thank a bunch

of credit

1. for shit we will never be able to get because the catalog is not updated regularly or I don’t even know how they integrate with other sites. We’ve gotten about half of the gifts that have been ordered, mostly for the bridal shower and 40% of those gifts were purchased on external registries.