u/cocopuffs5555

i’m 23f and my cousin and i are the same age. we tell each other everything we’re basically built in best friends. i’ve told him about one of my friends and the things she’s done to me and how i’ve been wanting to cut her off but im not sure how. for context she has tried to date guys that i’ve talked to and ive caught her telling my personal business to her friends and family before. some time has passed and i can’t get over it although she’s apologized. i completely understand that she’s tried to take accountability but it’s happened multiple times and i fear she’ll do it again, it’s just a matter of when. my cousin who lives 9 hours from me comes to visit and over his stay he tells me that he likes her and wants to pursue her. he knows that i don’t want her in my life anymore and that i have stopped seeing her as often. she came to my house twice during his stay but ive explained to him numerous times that i can’t continue this friendship. i feel hurt that given the history ive told him that he would want to try to pursue her. it’s also weird because he is the one who made it a boundary that we don’t date each others friends and now he’s trying to say that he only said that because his male friends aren’t good people. i just genuinely feel betrayed because why would you want to be with someone i have told you disrespected me on multiple occasions and that i have asked him for advice on how i should go about handling the situation. he told me because we hung out over his stay that he didn’t think it was that deep. he asked me multiple times can he talk to her and i never once said yes. i told him how this makes me uncomfortable and that if the roles were reversed i would not do that to him and he said if i feel this strongly he will cut her off. but now i feel like there will be resentment held against me.