Greywalling
Ex just texted me, angry that I had plans on my custody day. She’s going on vacation with my child early the next day, but beyond my approval of her plans tomorrow, she made no follow-up plans with me on the when & where. Remember, fellas: you’re not with them for a reason. Greywall means stick to plans & proof.
I had some early plans, so when she demanded an early pickup, I told her I didn’t see any specifics clarified between us, so we could do a little later one. Lots of insults to me. Greywall response from me: so you didn’t clarify plans on pickup? More insults. Cool, let’s stick to the facts: does 8 pm pickup work for you? More insults. Eventually 6 pm pickup was determined by her & threat to cancel my travel plans she had already approved. Didn’t retaliate with visceral crap—I’m no longer invested in her happiness. Her words have way less consequence than they used to.