u/confusiontadpole

I don’t actually know how to do this or explain this situation, but I watch KallMeKris (watching a reddit video right now) and I want both opinions on this situation and if I seem like an asshole, plus a rant. For context I am 16F and “was” (?) in an almost year long relationship, my 17M boyfriend was amazing but we started arguing over effort such as not going on dates anymore, he said the issue was money but then even when I suggested stuff like walks/camping etc it would be a no anyway. It was always what he wanted to do and never me, this is my first serious relationship so I don’t actually know much unfortunately, now about two months ago he started talking to a friend from his childhood 17F as well, the first day they hung out he offered to block her and stop speaking to her, but I said no, about two weeks after that she started making me uncomfortable and I made this known to him but he shrugged it off and blamed it on her being a hyper person. Last week I messaged him telling him I’m done with her and it turned into an argument, we broke up, but he wants to stay friends and continue to fuck, I don’t want that but I don’t know what to do, he promised me we would continue telling our friends and family we are still dating for a week, he told her a day after we broke up, and gave her his hoodie and I had a go at her for it, turns out he told everyone that we have broken up, she started talking shit about me and blocked me on everything but instagram, where she continues to tell my ex she feels targeted by me, he claims they haven’t done anything yet, and i don’t think they have, yet. She’s also just incredibly weird and flirts with my friends boyfriend (my friend also had a go at her over this) and the excuse was “flirting is my whole personality”, none of our friends like her apart from my ex. I know I’m young and will find someone else, you don’t need to tell me that, he’s picking me up today, during the last few weeks of our relationship he was hanging out with her more than me, I knew we were gonna break up but I didn’t want it to end like this, Ive tried to convince myself I’m okay with fwb but I know deep down I’m not cause everything is the same goodnight/morning texts i love you/youre so beautiful etc, so whats the point of breaking up. I’m also no longer allowed out at the same time as his friend (neither is my friend) because we both hate her. So she is only out on days we are not.

Something of topic but I do like someone, I liked them before my relationship and then stopped, I found out they liked me at some point recently as well for about three months but stopped themselves because I was in a relationship, in a way I know I need time to heal and first get out of this arrangement but he is such a sweet boy.