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I don’t actually know how to do this or explain this situation, but I watch KallMeKris (watching a reddit video right now) and I want both opinions on this situation and if I seem like an asshole, plus a rant. For context I am 16F and “was” (?) in an almost year long relationship, my 17M boyfriend was amazing but we started arguing over effort such as not going on dates anymore, he said the issue was money but then even when I suggested stuff like walks/camping etc it would be a no anyway. It was always what he wanted to do and never me, this is my first serious relationship so I don’t actually know much unfortunately, now about two months ago he started talking to a friend from his childhood 17F as well, the first day they hung out he offered to block her and stop speaking to her, but I said no, about two weeks after that she started making me uncomfortable and I made this known to him but he shrugged it off and blamed it on her being a hyper person. Last week I messaged him telling him I’m done with her and it turned into an argument, we broke up, but he wants to stay friends and continue to fuck, I don’t want that but I don’t know what to do, he promised me we would continue telling our friends and family we are still dating for a week, he told her a day after we broke up, and gave her his hoodie and I had a go at her for it, turns out he told everyone that we have broken up, she started talking shit about me and blocked me on everything but instagram, where she continues to tell my ex she feels targeted by me, he claims they haven’t done anything yet, and i don’t think they have, yet. She’s also just incredibly weird and flirts with my friends boyfriend (my friend also had a go at her over this) and the excuse was “flirting is my whole personality”, none of our friends like her apart from my ex. I know I’m young and will find someone else, you don’t need to tell me that, he’s picking me up today, during the last few weeks of our relationship he was hanging out with her more than me, I knew we were gonna break up but I didn’t want it to end like this, Ive tried to convince myself I’m okay with fwb but I know deep down I’m not cause everything is the same goodnight/morning texts i love you/youre so beautiful etc, so whats the point of breaking up. I’m also no longer allowed out at the same time as his friend (neither is my friend) because we both hate her. So she is only out on days we are not.

Something of topic but I do like someone, I liked them before my relationship and then stopped, I found out they liked me at some point recently as well for about three months but stopped themselves because I was in a relationship, in a way I know I need time to heal and first get out of this arrangement but he is such a sweet boy.

AITA- I (F24) am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend (M24). To describe our relationship, it is nothing short of perfect… but there’s a catch- his family. I will keep the detail minimal for the purpose of keeping this anonymous so bear with me. His family is very ethnic and, well, I’m just American. No one told me that ethnic background plays a HUGE part in their identity and it has created many hurdles for me. The biggest hurdle to jump has been the sister-in-law (F28, also same ethnicity) that just recently married into the family.

Everything started off fine… so I thought. I met sister-in-law (who I will call Sarah) when she was still the girlfriend. I thought we kicked it off really well in the beginning, although she did act very strange. She is super enthusiastic and coined the phrase “my friend” with me - which at first I thought was really sweet. Then, if it were anyone else around the four of us (Sarah, boyfriend’s brother, boyfriend, and me) she’d have crying fits. For instance, we hung out with their cousins and Sarah cried in the front of the restaurant for 45 minutes before joining us. That evening I approached her with an apology if I did anything wrong and she responded “oh, I just had a bad day” but my boyfriend talked to his brother (Tim) and Tim said it was because I didn’t compliment Sarah…
My reaction: ??????????? Because what??
From that day forward she talks POORLY about the cousins we were with, but I am to think that Sarah and I are on good terms…

Life goes on and so does the behavior, but it multiplies especially when they got engaged. Every family function there is, she pulls Tim to a private space to ‘talk’ to him while in tears. I really didn’t catch onto any of it because I thought ignorance is bliss. The major red flag appeared when we went out of state to a family member’s wedding. The entire trip they avoided all of our invites for meals, car rides, activities, and so on… they didn’t even sit we us on the plane ride. The entire time we were at the wedding she dragged Tim underneath the staircase in the reception hall to cry to him. Then when she was all done crying, she raced around the venue taking pictures of every decor for inspiration for her own wedding. I couldn’t shake the feeling of guilt because I thought I did something wrong.

When we made it back home, my boyfriend talked to his brother to see if everything was alright… it wasn’t. Tim was brutally honest and told my boyfriend that Sarah hates me. She doesn’t like that I have a better college degree, my own apartment, two dogs, a nicer car, and I’m good at socializing. But Tim clarified that it shouldn’t be taken seriously because she doesn’t like any female… not even their 11 year old niece because she’s too “proper”.
How can you dog on an 11 year old????

After that, I decided I was going to work my way into Sarah’s heart. She asked me to do a couple of things for her wedding so it made this goal very easy to accomplish. I made her bridal shower favors, desserts, balloon arch, set up, and clean up for bridal shower. To my surprise, it didn’t work. I come to find out she’s talking crap about me to my boyfriend’s mother. I can’t win.

So I take another approach, distance myself because I was just used for labor not friendship. Well, that didn’t work either. In fact, Tim approach me and ask why I didn’t say hi to her at a birthday party that day. I told him to bring Sarah in because it was a complete lie. She came in and immediately started apologizing because she “forgot” that I said hi. I fully believe she just didn’t know Tim was going to confront me with it so she couldn’t get away with it.

After that, Sarah and I tried to mend the rough patch with a coffee date. I met up with her and all she did was talk poorly about my boyfriend’s entire family saying they were too involved with the wedding planning that her mother is paying for and they have no right to do so… mind you, boyfriend’s family paid for $10,000 bridal shower and had to give Sarah’s family money for the wedding- which was used for their kitchen remodel. The rest of the money from Sarah’s family was the second mortgage they took out on their home. To go back on topic, no, we never went out for coffee again.

Obviously, everyone in boyfriend’s family has gotten the same treatment of disrespect. Yet, my boyfriend’s mother is still her #1 kiss-ass while making me feel like the bad guy. I made the boundary of being cordial but I will not force a relationship with anyone. But, boyfriend’s mother values and respects Sarah more- which I’ve been told is solely based on the fact that Sarah’s the same ethnicity as all of them.

Sarah asked me for more and more favors until the day of their wedding, where I made up great excuses to say no. Then, she never said hi to me at her wedding and hasn’t texted me since. A few months have passed now and the happily married couple are asking for a double date… what do I do in my position?

Edit #1: I also would like to add that Sarah got mad at me for not liking her Instagram stories. AITA for that? I usually just tap through stories. I recently deleted instagram because it was too much stress. How do I navigate the social media aspect? I don’t want to be disingenuous or fake because then she’ll think I’m her friend- I don’t want that.

Honestly dude I think people overreact when someone views real people to have crushes on each other (what I mean by shipping) like as long as the person isn't toxic about it or rubbing it in anyone's (ESPECIALLY the people they're shipping) faces it should be fine I guess, to be honest sometimes people hate on people for doing that but I think it's kinda stupid because if it doesn't affect you then don't start drama where drama isn't needed, because if you start drama you're just making problems for yourself and ruining the moods of people around you, so that's my hot take and I hope I don't get severely hated for this but yeah.

Edit: Guys can we not be rude about my post I've seen two comments like "wtf did I just read" and I don't want that stuff I'm just explaining my opinion I'm also not saying we SHOULD be shipping real people I'm just saying we shouldn't hate on people who are peacefully shipping real people without being toxic about it or rubbing it in anyone's faces

Edit 2: YOU GUYS ARE LITERALLY OVERREACTING RIGHT NOW I HAVE ADHD AND ANXIETY AND AUTISM AND ANGER ISSUES AND IT TOOK ME SO MUCH COURAGE TOMAKE THIS POST JESUS CHRSIT PEOPLE I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE SHOULD NORMALIZE PEOPLE DOING SEXUAL STUFF AND FORCING PEOPLE TO BE TOGETHER I'M SAYING IT SHOULD BE OKAY AS LONG AS THE PERSON SHIPPING ISN'T BEING WEIRD ABOUT IT AND IF YOU'RE TELLING ME TI WRITE BETTER THEN I DON'T FUCKING CARE EVERYONE IS OVERREACTING RIGHT NOW I'M NOT TRYING TO NORMALIZE ANYTHING I'M JUST SAYING IT SHOULD BE OKAYISH AS LONG AS NOBODY IF BEING WEIRD ABOUT IT JESUS FUCKING CHRIST EVERYONE IS OVERREACTING AND I FUCKING HATE IT JUST STOP

I have come to the realization that I am trying way too hard. Ive done so much stuff to make extra money. I created a SaaS AI driven Procurement OS Platform. Offered consulting I wrote a Procurement Transformation Book based on my 20 plus years experience. I even wrote 5 fiction titles under a pen name of Duke Masters to not try and confuse my business books from my more creative works. You listen to the YouTubers I should be having massive success. All crickets. Zilch Nada Zero. Im frustrated and worse yet broke. Just venting sorry. Really frustrated right now