r/RantsOfReddit

Why do I feel like tinder is the last stop for people who can’t seem to figure out how to get a date otherwise? I had high expectations since a couple of my friends said they hook up with girls all the time from there( I then remembered they have no standards). But have been overwhelmed by the number of middle aged women with septum piercings, aging tatted up “goth/emo” women, young girls looking for a sugar daddy, and generally busted up women in their 40s that look like they are in their 60s! I am a forty something year old man that presents like a man in his early 30s, has the energy of a 21 year old, a fierce sense of loyalty, and standards for fucks sake!! Why does it seem like there are no matches for me?! And when I do get involved I overlook obvious red flags and end up getting rolled over by a psychopathic, narcissistic, immature, selfish being that “ seemed nice” at first. Ugh. Bout to hang it up…

I am 52, successful business owner, married 30 years, been only lurking on here for many years. 2 years ago I tried to post and gave up after everything was deleted. I dont understand how to get approved to post and why this site is like this. I am not a bot. lol I would be a good addition and would love to help and also get help when needed, but I cant post! so many times I say I will just delete this account, but here I am trying again. :/ one last try.

Okay so this is my first time posting on reddit like this but i'm genuinely curious about the topic of crushes and mutual interest and would love people's opinions.

I'm 18 and muslim, i never dated or had a talking stage with a guy. I'm living in a muslim country so the concept of dating and asking people out isn't as straightforward.

there's this boy that i found cute (same major and year) in semester 1. I'm gonna call him mike. we never really talked and like all my crushes i didn't think we'd interact much i used to have BRIEF eye contact with him every once in a while up until the last month o the semester (december) we had an interaction i wouldn't think too much of it but i'll talk about it briefly, basically in the university computer labs he was there with his friend group while i was there with my friend, i recognized someone behind me playing the show 'The Office', turns out it was Mike I was like "Is that the episode with the dundies" and he said yeah while smiling and all that. at the same time i was about to play the show 'Friends' thats when he was like "Woah you watch friends and the office? you have good taste". and then he was walking around the Lab he was standing watching my screen and he did that twice

when semester 2 started we had a group assignment and Mike asked if he can join me and my friend in a group and he did (2 other guys joined the group as well). for that assignment we had to film something in a specific place around 40 minutes away from us. as a group we decided to all go in one car my friend was sitting shotgun, one of the guys were driving and then mike was sitting next to me, while were on our way to pick up the other guy that joined our group Mike brought up that semester one interaction by saying "weren't you the one who was watching Friends" and we had a mini discussion about other shows to watch but what i regret here is that I didn't keep the convo going and talk about other things. eventually that same night i followed him on instagram and he followed me back minutes later. and a few days letter I see that he texted me about an assignment that's not related to what we are doing together i thought it was odd but of course i helped him and told him what is expected from that assignment.

for the rest of the semester nothing really happened until a couple days ago i posted a story of MJ's biopic at the cinema on instagram, even though it's not the first movie/story i post on there (i post once or twice a week) he liked it- probably because he's a fan of micheal's music (based on his reposts lmao) we had an exam earlier today and when a bunch of people were discussing how the exam was, i joined in and noticed he was there, we made very quick eye contact a bunch of times and when i was leaving i gave him a subtle wave he did the same.

i know i'm overthinking a lot of things and its usually nothing but is there a chance that there is interest or something like that? just a disclaimer i'm a very shy girl and don't interact with guys as much unless we're friends. my friends are saying that's why he isn't straightforward with me or anything like that because i'm not "easy to approach" and he may be shy or wtv around me but I still think that with guys no matter what if they like a girl they'll approach her- the "if he wanted to he would" mindset.