Thinking about replacing/redesigning my rings after 10 years and feeling guilty
My husband and I will be married 10 years this summer, and I feel weirdly emotional and guilty about this.
My wedding rings haven’t fit since I had our kid 6 years ago. I was tiny in college and we got married very soon after. They could definitely be resized, but the more I’ve looked at rings lately, the more I’ve realized I don’t actually love mine stylistically and maybe never really did? Which makes me feel awful to even say.
They’re white gold and the engagement ring has three same sized stones. The wedding band is a comfort fit white gold band. Perfectly nice. Real diamonds, expensive, traditional, etc. But over the years I’ve realized my taste is way more vintage/art deco/yellow gold/colored gemstone/artsy Etsy ring. If I could go back in time honestly I probably would’ve picked something way less expensive but more “me."
My husband is genuinely kind about this stuff, but gift giving has always stressed him out and I know he tried really hard when he picked them out. But we both were 10 years younger and followed our parents' advice and direction ahead of the wedding since he was 24 and I 22 at the time. Tonight he asked (very kindly) why I’m looking at replacement rings instead of resizing mine, and I could immediately tell this is probably a sensitive subject.
Now I feel shallow and ungrateful and dramatic. Like maybe the answer is just “resize them and move on with your life.” But also part of me feels sad thinking about wearing something every day forever that doesn’t feel like me at all.
Has anybody dealt with this in a long marriage? Did you redesign your rings? Get anniversary rings? Just resize them and stop overthinking it?