u/coolmom-

I genuinely want unbiased opinions because I’ve gotten mixed reactions.

I’ve been getting to know a guy for a little while. From the beginning, he knew I have a son. My son isn’t something I hide—he’s a huge part of my life.

One day, he reposted a social media post that said:

“Where the bitches with no kids at?”

He added his own caption:

“Lowkey the only way to my heart.”

When I saw it, I honestly got the ick.

It wasn’t because I think people aren’t allowed to have preferences. Everyone is entitled to them. My thought process was simply:

If that’s your preference, why are you pursuing me?

To me, it felt like his words and actions didn’t match. He was actively getting to know me while publicly posting something that seemed to exclude someone like me.

Because of that, I stopped replying. The next day he texted asking why I had gone MIA.

I replied:

“Oh, I thought you didn’t like women with kids.”

His response was:

“If you’re gonna take everything I post on social media to heart, then I feel it…”

That response didn’t really clear anything up for me. It almost felt like he dismissed my concern instead of explaining what he meant or reassuring me that the post wasn’t directed at how he actually viewed me.

After that, I completely lost interest. Now if he texts me, my first thought is, “Why are you texting me?”

My sister thinks I’m overreacting and says it was “just a post.” Most other people I’ve talked to have said they understand why it bothered me.

For me, though, it’s less about the post itself and more about what I perceived it to mean. I took it at face value. If someone publicly says the “only way to my heart” is someone without kids, I’m going to assume that’s what they actually want.

I’m not upset that he has a preference if that’s truly his preference. I’m more confused about why he would pursue me if he feels that way.

So… am I overreacting, or would this have made you question the situation too? How would you have interpreted it?

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I’m a skinny girl and have been skinny pretty much my whole life. The only time I ever gained a significant amount of weight was during BCT. I remember telling the woman I weighed 123 lbs, and she said, “Umm, that’s a lie. Step on this scale.” 🤣 I stepped on it and was 155 lbs! I was shocked. However, that was years ago.

Now I’m back to my usual weight of around 132 lbs. I’m 5’8” and would love to put some healthy weight back on. I’m not looking to become overweight, just a little thicker with some muscle and curves. I had a child and honestly fell off when it came to self-care, fitness, and prioritizing myself.

I just joined a gym today and am ready to get back into it. Is it realistic to gain 10–15 lbs by the end of August? If so, what exercises should I focus on? Should I prioritize weight training, cardio, diet, protein intake, or all of the above?