Fiancé leaving for military soon, won’t increase his share of utilities or rent.
Me and my fiancé have been together 2 years now, he’s swearing into the national guard the 29th, that being said he leaves in November. He will get a housing allowance of 1,500 our rent is 650 and as of now we pay equal cause we both make 14 an hour, split is 325 plus utilities which is usually 100 each and groceries usually are 200 for 3 weeks of groceries. That being said he will have the 1,500 to help pay rent and utilities but he still insists on paying 50/50 even though he will be making 2x more than me and what he does now. Even if he paid more than what he does he will have thousands left over of disposable income. Should he pay more? I work full time and I never have any money left to do fun things because I usually buy groceries and he never helps.
Here’s what I sent him
Your estimated National Guard housing allowance alone (which will be at least $1,341.00+ a month in North Carolina) will completely cover your entire $617.50 share of rent, utilities, and groceries. You will still have over $720.00 left over from his housing allowance alone, plus his full $2,407.12 military base salary untouched. Meanwhile, I will finally have an extra $142.50 a month to build an emergency fund, pay off debts, or save for your shared future.
And that’s a giant difference in money and it’s fair for me to want to pay less when you’re going to be swimming in cash