u/county_creditr456

I've got so many questions this Sunday afternoon bana. How does an uncircumcised penis look like? Is it better than the circumcised one?

Most folks on reddit are very much against circumcision and equate it with FGM for some reason. But In my whole lifetime I don't recall ever seeing an uncircumcised one. So for those uncircumcised bandits tebu tell me, just for research purposes.

My man's birthday is fast approaching and one of the gifts is a watch. I'm not a watch Connoisseur by any means and also not looking to show off but I've seen some nice watches with my small budget of 4000 and I want to know is it okay to buy?

This is my first birthday with him so I want to start of simple nothing too flashy or loud cause I did an oil painting of his dog and that's my main focus on gifts.

I'm just so excited. I love being in love😭🤭

Hi guys Kuna mat direct kutoka tao hadi oloolua?

Why is ghosting such a norm in ending relationships nowadays?? Right now I'm going through some weird mixture of emotions but I'm overall so angry.

Is it some power dynamic? Mental health? What could the reason be as to just tell someone that it isn't going to work out, is it really that hard?? People are going to enter and exit your life but is this how one surely chooses to do it?? Toying with someone's emotions is as childish as it gets and I wish you the best I guess.

All those calls and texts to know what is wrong you just choose to assume or ignore? Honestly shenzi type wewe

Are there any groups that I can join??

Those lucky ones who benefit from this pretty privilege thing tebu tuambie how life fairs on for you guys, juu Leo 😭😭

Edit!!

Leo we had a new girl in our department, yaani stunner, insta pretty, smells nice, killer figure and by lunch hour everyone know her name even some guys from neighbouring department were there oogling over her.

I've been there for 6 months na najulikana as the 'IT girl' hadi name tag I still wear juu people don't want to bother to learn my name😂 my fave is when they snap their fingers to get my attention. I remember my first day in that office; and I don't want to reiterate it cause I'll just cry na Sina machozi Leo.

Anyways just bought my first bottle of liquor to get wasted instead of crying just waiting hii traffic isonge nifike home to my cats at least hawaboekangi na Mimi😂😭

Having a crush at this big age of mine feels a little bit too silly at times. Yaani when I receive that text or call I get giddy like a little girl, thrashing all over my bed being completely flattered and red faced.😭😂.

Also It doesn't help it's ovulation week, so I hope he somehow felt a disturbance in the force when I rubbed out on for him Jana🤭

Not really unhinged but I have to know.

What are subtle signs that you saw in your relationship with your partner and you knew this will definitely fall apart sooner or later.

And did you overcome it like sticking around; you know probably waiting it out and hope it'll be fixed somehow or did you up and leave.

Will it get better, I feel so shitty right now. I need a hug lmao.

One thing I have legitimate fear for is to be labelled as a bad kisser. I've never gone to third base with a man ever and it's probably because I'm afraid of not knowing what to do lol.

I've watched countless videos on YouTube and telenovelas but makes me wish I had of a somewhat practicing partner to do this with.

I hope someday I overcome this fear, for those experienced nipeeni tips for what to do ,what to expect and how to reciprocate 😭😭

Eish today I had errands in westlands, ngong road,loresho and CBD and mahnnn!!! The influx of fine ass men I encountered waah😭 kwani wanakuanga wamejificha wapi?? Times like this I wish I had guts lol.

I hope it stays like that for a while. Anyways plans za Leo ni?

Just finished re-arranging my bedroom, finished re-reading one of my old novels from way back in primary school lol.

So what are you guys up to??

Why does it suck being single arghh 😭

Also thinking of participating in the matter heart run next week really missed that lol.

Enough is enough!!!

Put a halt to all the dick pics eiii pale dm's.🤢. I get it it's big and long and all that shit but please I don't want to see none of that...

I'll appreciate a titty pic tho 👀

Side note, mbona machali mmebeat hivyo?

WANTAM!!

Hope I don't sound vain and uncouth asking this question, so forgive me in advance for all the feathers ruffled. No bad blood btw lol.

Has anyone linked up with someone from reddit, male or female who turned out beautiful or handsome??

Because yooh some of you guys are really...👀😶👁️👄👁️

Mnakimbia reddit kujificha cause of the anonymity...

I need some advice on how to finally pull the plug on my current relationship, because I am so tired and realizing we are fundamentally incompatible.

I’m a 24F and I’ve been seeing this guy (28M) for a while. We both still live with our parents, which I know makes dating a little tricky, but the situation has just gotten ridiculous. He is a senior software engineer, makes good money, but seems entirely complacent with his life and puts zero effort into us.

First of all, we have a completely non-existent sexual relationship. I mean absolutely no intimacy whatsoever. We have never kissed, literally nothing. I kept telling myself that "good things come to those who wait" and tried to be patient since we both live at home, but it feels like we aren't even dating.

On top of the lack of intimacy, he is incredibly boring to be around. He never talks about himself, his friends, his hobbies, or anything going on in his world unless I actively interrogate him. I am always the one carrying the conversation.

Last week really sealed the deal for me. We went out to dinner and I decided to run a little test: I stayed quiet and left it up to him to steer the conversation for once. We deadass just sat there staring at each other in awkward silence. He made zero effort. Eventually, I was so bored that I just pulled out my phone and started playing Scrabble. After a while, I told him I was just going to go home. That was the only time he finally spoke up, just to ask me, "Is everything ok?"

I'm mentally checked out. We are not compatible at all, and I'm ready to end it, get back on the dating apps, and hopefully find a guy who actually wants to converse, have some intimacy, and show some passion for life.

How do I go about ending things with someone who is this passive? Has anyone else dealt with a guy like this?

TL;DR: I (24F) am dating a 28M who puts zero effort into conversations and we have absolutely zero physical intimacy (never even kissed). I'm tired of carrying the relationship and want to break up so I can find someone new, but I don't know how to end it with someone so passive.

Like deadass y'all actually planning to meet each other on here and you do to the point of having sexcapades!!

Anyway si mtushow stories btw. there has to be plenty of shenanigans

Relationship woes

\*\*LONG POST ALERT\*\*

Hi y'all. So my boyfriend and I just hit a massive rocky path in our year-long relationship, and it's driving me nuts.

For some context: we both live with our respective parents. For our entire relationship, I have been the one putting in all the effort. I am always the one suggesting we meet up on Saturdays or holidays. I plan the time, the place, everything. Not once has he ever thought of initiating anything. I would make sure to text him every day, and if he was overwhelmed with work, he’d just say we'd talk another time. On top of that, after a year together, I barely know anything about him, I don’t even know his favorite food, color, or activities. He never invites me out with his friends.

Recently, we had a huge fight about him never involving me in his life. He is planning to move out of his parents' house, so I asked to accompany him house hunting. He initially said yes. I got all dressed up, drove out, and was literally waiting at our first location. That’s when he texted me saying "it’s better off to do this solo." I got so pissed off. You can't just cancel plans with someone after they’ve already arrived at the location! I said "ok" and blocked him. I admit blocking him was acting like a child, but I was so mad and annoyed at the disrespect. We eventually somewhat patched things up, and he promised he'd "involve me more," but nothing actually changed. I don't even know if he ever found a house lol.

This brings me to the issue with our mutual female friend. Back in uni, I was extremely introverted and had zero friends. I met this girl during an attachment at a company, and she introduced me to her friend group.( We were in the same uni, same course, same year levels)She is actually the one who "wingmanned" my boyfriend and me, as she recommended him to help me fix some coding bugs. It was love at first sight for me 😂😭.

After we graduated, this girl and I drifted apart. It hurt a bit, but it made sense because she found work and I was enrolling in a graduate course. However, she and my boyfriend stayed in touch. I understood this because he helped her find her current job and they are heavily into the same tech stuff, whereas I am not.

About 4 weeks ago, I learned she went M.I.A due to work/home stress from another acquaintance of ours. I asked my boyfriend if they were still talking. Instead of answering directly, he asked me, "Have you talked to her?" I said no, and asked him what they’ve been talking about. He replied: "Ask her."

Mind you, I had just reminded him that she and I haven't spoken in over 2 years, so his response felt incredibly shady and dismissive. I just replied, "Ok."

He then asked, "Are you mad?" I said "no," because honestly, why would he play in my face like this? I was tired of arguing.

That was the last conversation we had on record. The last text was received on April 2nd. To date, no texts, no calls, no messages. Nothing.

Tbh, it's eating me alive not talking to him, but I'm so tired of being the one who reaches out and plans everything. Why can't he do it this time? Should I put on my big girl pants and text/call him, or should I just wait it out and see how it plays out?

I know he's busy with work since he got promoted to a managerial position, but does that excuse him not reaching out at all? Or am I being too emotional right now and need to grow up more? Please advise me.

TL;DR:

My [24F] boyfriend [28M] of 1 year puts zero effort into our relationship. I plan all the dates, and he doesn't involve me in his life. He recently canceled a house-hunting date on me after I had already arrived at the location. Later, when I asked him about his ongoing contact with a mutual female friend (who we originally met through), he was super dismissive and told me to "ask her," even though he knows we haven't spoken in 2 years. He asked if I was mad, I said "no" because I was exhausted by his games, and he hasn't reached out to me since April 2nd. Should I break the silence, or wait for him to finally put in some effort?

Posted on the ladies sub, need collective input lol so reposted here

**LONG POST ALERT**

Hi y'all. So my boyfriend and I just hit a massive rocky path in our year-long relationship, and it's driving me nuts.

For some context: we both live with our respective parents. For our entire relationship, I have been the one putting in all the effort. I am always the one suggesting we meet up on Saturdays or holidays. I plan the time, the place, everything. Not once has he ever thought of initiating anything. I would make sure to text him every day, and if he was overwhelmed with work, he’d just say we'd talk another time. On top of that, after a year together, I barely know anything about him, I don’t even know his favorite food, color, or activities. He never invites me out with his friends.

Recently, we had a huge fight about him never involving me in his life. He is planning to move out of his parents' house, so I asked to accompany him house hunting. He initially said yes. I got all dressed up, drove out, and was literally waiting at our first location. That’s when he texted me saying "it’s better off to do this solo." I got so pissed off. You can't just cancel plans with someone after they’ve already arrived at the location! I said "ok" and blocked him. I admit blocking him was acting like a child, but I was so mad and annoyed at the disrespect. We eventually somewhat patched things up, and he promised he'd "involve me more," but nothing actually changed. I don't even know if he ever found a house lol.

This brings me to the issue with our mutual female friend. Back in uni, I was extremely introverted and had zero friends. I met this girl during an attachment at a company, and she introduced me to her friend group.( We were in the same uni, same course, same year levels)She is actually the one who "wingmanned" my boyfriend and me, as she recommended him to help me fix some coding bugs. It was love at first sight for me 😂😭.

After we graduated, this girl and I drifted apart. It hurt a bit, but it made sense because she found work and I was enrolling in a graduate course. However, she and my boyfriend stayed in touch. I understood this because he helped her find her current job and they are heavily into the same tech stuff, whereas I am not.

About 4 weeks ago, I learned she went M.I.A due to work/home stress from another acquaintance of ours. I asked my boyfriend if they were still talking. Instead of answering directly, he asked me, "Have you talked to her?" I said no, and asked him what they’ve been talking about. He replied: "Ask her."

Mind you, I had just reminded him that she and I haven't spoken in over 2 years, so his response felt incredibly shady and dismissive. I just replied, "Ok."

He then asked, "Are you mad?" I said "no," because honestly, why would he play in my face like this? I was tired of arguing.

That was the last conversation we had on record. The last text was received on April 2nd. To date, no texts, no calls, no messages. Nothing.

Tbh, it's eating me alive not talking to him, but I'm so tired of being the one who reaches out and plans everything. Why can't he do it this time? Should I put on my big girl pants and text/call him, or should I just wait it out and see how it plays out?

I know he's busy with work since he got promoted to a managerial position, but does that excuse him not reaching out at all? Or am I being too emotional right now and need to grow up more? Please advise me.

TL;DR:

My [24F] boyfriend [28M] of 1 year puts zero effort into our relationship. I plan all the dates, and he doesn't involve me in his life. He recently canceled a house-hunting date on me after I had already arrived at the location. Later, when I asked him about his ongoing contact with a mutual female friend (who we originally met through), he was super dismissive and told me to "ask her," even though he knows we haven't spoken in 2 years. He asked if I was mad, I said "no" because I was exhausted by his games, and he hasn't reached out to me since April 2nd. Should I break the silence, or wait for him to finally put in some effort?