u/coursejunkie

In the past week I have had *five* people book appointments and then either not show up or cancel. I feel that will happen with next week as well which already hasn't booked up.

While I am going for my ICF ACC, I am also being trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems). If someone wants to experience that in their coaching, please let me know.

As far as my niches, they include authenticity, academic, resilience, and spirituality.

If you are interested, drop a comment and I will send my calendly link via chat for a two hour session (so each one of us get an hour)

I am in cohort E if you want to practice.

I'm currently a student coach working on my ACC with Symbiosis Coaching and they haven't opened up our reciprocal coaching yet. I've reached out to several people on here and others (and I'm waiting for approval for some of the facebook groups) and so far have not received any responses of people willing to trade hours. I can't afford to pay for the groups that charge to help you get hours.

So I am a researcher and psychology professor who mostly worked with high performers and productivity for consulting so I am hoping to do similar for coaching. I've worked in multiple industries including the arts, healthcare, academia, and being self employed so would like to try to test out and do some coaching work with careers or academic coaching as well.

I am also hoping to get some experience with relationship coaching, I am kink aware and poly informed and am a member of both of those communities.

Anyone interested?

https://calendly.com/melvinsmarsh/2-hour-meeting (This link is for 2 hours so we can do each one at once)

There has been so many sad/depressing posts lately that I figured I would share some positive news.

My husband and NP of 27 years, French Toast (66 M) met his meta Lobster (70 M) a little over a week ago for the first time. Despite us (I am 45 FtM) officially being poly for 25 of those years, usually French Toast would only meet his meta briefly after a year or so of me dating. That included Eggplant (who I dated for 6 years) and Pork Chop (3 years). I took a break from relationships since I was polysaturated at 1 while dealing with two relatives with stage 4 cancer and a grandmother with dementia plus I was going to medical school. That also meant a 10 year sexual drought.

I finally had less to worry about and French Toast realized I was lonely end of March and reminded me that nothing was stopping me from dating again. I told my therapist Dragonfruit (who is also poly but didn't really know I was though we'd been seeing each other 2x a week for over a year), and he gave me orders to get on a bunch of sites. Within two weeks, I met Lobster. April 10 was our first date, so I've been with him 4 months.

It wasn't a normal meeting or else it would have been waiting for my traditional year. Lobster is a doctor (I lucked out!) and when I came back from a cross country trip I found out French Toast had passed out when I was gone. He had been getting dizzy. I told Lobster who like me was an EMT (or as French Toast says "a bandaid applier"), and he told me to start collecting data and message him as soon as things happened. There was some concerning information that I was finding, apparent skipped heartbeats, etc. Lobster said if French Toast refuses to go to the ER or Urgent Care to bring him to his clinic about 2 hours away which is what we had to do even though we had our normal PCP in a week. French Toast is really, really stubborn about medical things. It takes me begging him to go to Emergency for him to think about seeing a doctor.

After the 2 hour appointment with Lobster (yes Lobster was in the room almost the entire time, we were the last appt of the day), who mostly said the same things that I did, French Toast agreed to go to further testing and to move up all his cardiac and neuro appointments up and he agreed to go back on a CGM for his diabetes. They also bonded over being former military. French Toast was Air Force, Lobster was Navy.

After we left, I asked French Toast what he thought of Lobster.

French Toast said he thought Lobster and I were made for each other. Likely because we act similarly, though we fit together very nicely and Lobster and I have said similarly. Though French Toast asked how I didn't break Lobster in bed. LOL. (Lobster is not quite 5'6" and 150 lbs, I am 5'4" and 175 lbs and I've nearly broken French Toast before and he is 6'4" and 230 lbs!). He also said he was grateful that Lobster seemed to be much nicer than Eggplant in particular. (Lobster doesn't even curse, dating him is like dating a boy scout.) Meanwhile Lobster said French Toast was a little stubborn but certainly not as bad as others he has met, but otherwise he didn't have much to say outside of extreme concern.

It's nice to have my partners like each other at the very least because that is a first for me. French Toast keeps wondering why I can't get decent boyfriends.

(Before anyone asks, French Toast sees the cardiologist tomorrow. He saw his internist yesterday and his blood pressure was 80/59 there! No wonder he is feeling dizzy.)

OK so 44 year old here. I don't really assume I am going to ever retire to be honest though my husband does well enough.

A settlement for $40K just came in. It doesn't need to be super liquid and I am no stranger to volatility.

Between my 401k and my normal brokerage, I make an average of something like $300 a month in dividends right now (my next "goal" is 500, then 1000). I have some QQQI in my 401k, but this is going to go into my normal brokerage account.

I know people love VOO around here as well as SCHD which are currently at their highs for the year. I have also seen some discussion on MAIN stock which is near their low so that is tempting me. I do tend to like investing when the market is sketchy and things are at their lows.

Recommendations?

Thank you.

(And this is a repost because the other was removed because it thought I was asking about the T word but I wasn't and I can't get a mod to explain what happened?)

I have had an ongoing issue with squirrels taking up residence in my attic.

A few years ago, I hired Critter Control (they were the only ones willing to work with squirrels) to get rid of the squirrels and do an exclusion so they couldn't get back in. It took almost a year for them to get the squirrels out.

It's good for like a year, well they came back.

I've been trying to get a hold of them for several months just to find out TODAY that Critter Control no longer serves Augusta.

Who are other options that DEFINITELY do squirrels and ideally in a humane way? Knox right now is dealing with my wasps and roaches and they are not doing a good job.