u/crispy_blueberry_b

I (22 F) have been married to my husband (23 M) for almost a year but we’ve been together for well over 6 years. We have two children who we love dearly. Our marriage has been overall going pretty well. Before getting married people would always tell me things like “ring goes on, mask comes off” but I never truly understood that until now.
We both have a pretty good sense of humor and share lots of inside jokes. For example, sometimes he’ll have a humorously large (in length) poo and he’ll leave it in the toilet to “impress” me I guess? I’m not sure, I’ve never really understood it but he finds it hilarious. He did it a few times and I laughed. Then I told him to stop because it wasn’t funny anymore and told him it’s childish.
Well unfortunately it didn’t stop here. Now he consistently forgets to flush his massive poops down the toilet. Ive gotten onto him numerous times about this yet somehow he still manages to “forget”. It’s absolutely disgusting and this has done a number on our toilet. Sometimes I don’t get to it in time and it sits for hours or sometimes up to a day. We usually use opposite bathrooms as one is closer to the living room and more convenient.
Well, my question is how can i get the point across to him to get him to stop doing this? This has honestly almost become a dealbreaker for me.
tl;dr: husband won’t flush his massive poops down the toilet after asking multiple times.

My baby will be 6 weeks old tomorrow and we’re still really struggling with breastfeeding.
He was born on 6/19 at 39 weeks, but unfortunately had a rough start. He spent his first two weeks in the NICU due to oxygen desaturations and congenital anemia. He was on a feeding tube for the first few days, but the NICU still had me practice breastfeeding a couple of times a day. The rest of his feeds were expressed breast milk by bottle. Thankfully, I’ve had an oversupply, so supply hasn’t been an issue.
While we were in the NICU, I met with several lactation consultants. Because of his anemia, he would tire very quickly at the breast, so we used a nipple shield for every nursing session. The LCs were able to help him latch and stay latched longer.
Since coming home, we’ve been practicing nursing 2–3 times a day. I had one outpatient lactation appointment, and of course he latched beautifully the entire time, so it ended up being a pretty quick visit. He still doesn’t transfer milk very well, so he always needs a bottle afterward, and honestly, triple feeding has been mentally exhausting.
Over the past week or two, we’ve finally been able to nurse without the nipple shield, which has been exciting. The problem is that breastfeeding is so inconsistent. Some feeds go amazingly well—he latches deeply, stays on, and I leave feeling so hopeful. Other feeds are a complete disaster.
Today was one of the bad ones. No matter how many times I repositioned him, he would only stay latched for a minute or two before forcefully pulling off, crying, and refusing to relatch. I tried over and over, but nothing seemed to help.
I’m just feeling so defeated. I see so many moms talk about breastfeeding coming naturally, and I can’t help but wonder what I’m doing wrong. I feel like I’m failing him, even though I’m trying so hard.
Has anyone else had a baby who was this inconsistent at almost 6 weeks? Did things eventually click? I’d also love any advice on babies who latch well sometimes but seem to completely fall apart during other feeds.

On 6/18 (at 38+6) I went into labor with my second baby. I was so excited to meet him and grow our family. It was a very quick labor and he was born on 6/19 at 2am. I had some good bonding time with him, as did my husband and my parents. I got some rest. He was admitted into the nicu at only a few hours old due to low oxygen levels and quick breathing. They started doing tests and put him on oxygen and an IV in his umbilical cord.
Later in the day, around 6pm after doing some labs and realizing he’s anemic they decide he needs to be transferred to a level 4 nicu at a local children’s hospital. I absolutely lost it, because what do you mean you’re taking my baby that’s only 14 hours old to a different hospital.
He was on oxygen for a few days but they took him off since his sats were staying stable with minimum oxygen. Everything seemed to be going in the right direction and we’d get to take him home as soon as he passed his car seat test. He failed it twice but they planned on retaking it with a new car seat this morning.
Well, we get there this morning and he’s on an oxygen cannula again. We are so devastated. Right when things were starting to look good our hopes were crushed.
They’re keeping him on oxygen over the weekend and may retry the car seat test Monday.
My main reason for sharing my story is to see if anyone is going through or has been through something similar with their baby.
There’s no official diagnosis but they’re thinking it’s some sort of infection.