I’m not really enjoying my free time. Seeking advice to make peace or fix life.
Hi
I’m a 42M in Sydney. Been here quite a few years but I’m an immigrant and did a couple of overseas stints so i haven’t lived here continuously since I moved here.
I have a high pace exec job and I work out quite a lot. I spend a lot of time with my family and yes I could do better with spending time with my son. But all things equal, I think I do a reasonable job spending time and bonding with my son.
I find that my social groups, which incidentally are very mono-ethnocultural in shape and cliquey, are boring. I must be an odd ball because I don’t want to do what they do all the time. It’s the same old drink whiskey, eat great bbq and talk fkn mortgages and property. Aargh!! I hate it.
I want to go out to festivals, enjoy music, dance (my fkn feminine side I guess), maybe smoke a joint some time instead of fkn my liver up. But I find no connect with the people I hang out with. I’ve asked my friends but they just say shit that makes me feel old.
I don’t quite know how to go about it. My accent also stereotypes me. Not that I give a fk though. I go out to live music venues alone. I do enjoy but I get conscious and nervous every now and then. I tried making my gym my focus. And it is. But I don’t enjoy spending more than an hour at the gym.
Am I mentally not at peace with my station in life? Or do I deserve to be able to live a little? I think this is a typical ‘all work and no play…” situation.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this?