u/curlyfox1996

Conheci ele 1 ano e meio atrás. Ele tinha saído de um casamento longo e tóxico com a ex.

O nosso relacionamento era pacífico, nunca brigamos e nunca tivemos problemas. Tinhamos tudo em comum, os mesmos gostos e valores, a conexão era incrível. Nunca incomodei, nunca fui possessiva ou implicante e ele também não. Tivemos um dia dos namorados perfeito, nos falamos a semana toda e no fim de semana ele terminou comigo por mensagem falando que estava angustiado e não aguentava mais viver com esse sentimento, ele disse que não conseguiu desenvolver amor por mim e que eu fui perfeita e não precisava mudar nada em mim, mas que ele não conseguia permanecer comigo porque não conseguia corresponder tudo que eu mereço e disse que estava me impedindo e atrapalhando de achar alguém melhor.

Eu nunca quis outra pessoa, queria ele e nosso relacionamento seria pra sempre se ele tivesse disposto. Agora estou há dias triste com o nosso término e sem entender porquê e como uma pessoa é capaz de passar quase dois anos com a outra e não ser honesta dos próprios sentimentos. Pra mim ele valia a pena, eu passaria por qualquer problema pra ficar com ele, mas na primeira oportunidade ele desistiu de mim e me deixou.

I met this guy 1 year and half ago, before me he was married 10 years with a toxic and possessive woman.

Our relationship was calm and peaceful, we just like the same thing, same values, humor and our connection was amazing. He never said anything negative about our relationship. No fightings, no toxic behavior anytime. NEVER. In my country valentine's day was in 12 june, we had a perfect day with love, flowers, gifts and dinner. Also we met 2 days after, another good day spending time together. All the week I was talking to him, he was always talking to me being kind. On the Saturday (20 june) he texted me saying that he wanted to broke up, that I was an incredible woman and I was perfect to him in all the aspects, but he was feeling bad because he couldn't correspond to the feeling 100%. He said that he was feeling guilty and I deserve someone better who give me the 100%. I talked to him trying to understand, saying that maybe he's was confused about the love because he learned how to love with his toxic ex wife, I said that we should give another try to us because to me he worth it so much, but he didn't wanted to give another try and we broke up.

To me, love is something that we build everyday with someone, isn't something that happens so fast, specially after a long marriage. To me, If someone worth the effort, is a secure place to build love and affection. It was terrible to me remember all that we've been through and realize that It was a lie and I gave my everything. I'm suffering all these days trying to understand how can someone is capable to do something like these to another human being who just gave him love, empathy and affection.